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I'm worried about how much Dd2 worries

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nutcracker · 05/08/2006 22:20

I have posted before about how stressed Dd2 gets over things, for example, the end of term because of routine changes, but now she is getting worried over things she hears or she thinks might happen.

Her sister has been reading some of the horrible histories books and I know there was something about the plague in one. Dd2 asked me tonight if the plague will ever come back or if we will ever get it. I told her that it wouldn't come back, but she asked me a few more times before she seemed ok with it.
I just told dp and he said she has asked him twice this week too.

She also got quite distressed when she had a book from school about natural disasters and was really worried we'd have an earthquake or hurricane.

I hate to think of her being so stressed all the time and worry it will get worse the older she gets.

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nutcracker · 05/08/2006 22:50

So no one is worried about me worrying about Dd2 worrying then

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southeastastra · 05/08/2006 22:51

how old is she? my ds5 is stressed about alot of things at the mo

Dior · 05/08/2006 22:52

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nutcracker · 05/08/2006 22:55

She is 6 .

I am worried because she had/has mild OCD (handwashing) although thankfully it has been a while now since that happened last, but I worry that she is has a tendancy for anxious behavior and that it might get worse when she's older.

Perhaps I am just being silly, but she stresses me ot LOL.

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southeastastra · 05/08/2006 22:57

my son is going through a really bad phase at the moment, he gets so wound up easily

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saadia · 05/08/2006 23:00

I used to worry a lot too. I remember when I was little and saw Ben Hur I was worried about catching leprosy.

Some people are natural worriers and are generally anxious but I would suggest that you talk to her and explain that the chances of these things happening are very rare. Maybe explain that bad things do happen but that you and your dp will look after her.

Has anything happened recently that you think might have caused this extra worrying?

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nutcracker · 05/08/2006 23:07

TBH I really don't think the probs at home have had anything to do with it as she has always been the same but gotten worse the older she's got.

The handwashing started when she was about 3. She has always been a sensitive soul and takes peoples comments to heart and like the plague thing, I could tell she'd been sat there worrying about it by her expression.

She is such a lovely little girl with the most wonderful sense of humour, she can make a room full of people laugh without even trying, but behind that she seems so troubled sometimes.

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nutcracker · 05/08/2006 23:10

I really have to watch my mouth sometimes. Tonight for example, we have no hot water and when I was putting her to bed she asked if I was having a bath, and I said no we have no hot water. She asked when the HA are coming to fix it and I said monday, so she said 'monday, thats ages away', so I said well you know them, they aren;t interesrted unless the house is about to blow up, so then we had lots of "Is the house going to blow up" questions.

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Dior · 05/08/2006 23:23

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nutcracker · 05/08/2006 23:27

No not at all, honestly Dior

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nutcracker · 05/08/2006 23:29

I think alot of it is probably her age judging from what some of you have said.

Hopefully she'll grow out of it, but i think until then I'll just make sure i'm on hand to answer hher questions and help her if she does have any worries.

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colditz · 06/08/2006 00:57

Just rationalise everything with her, ie the plague won't come back because we have antibiotics now, we don't get earthquakes and tasunamis here because we aren't on a fault line, we don't need to worry too much about germs on our hands because they are our own germs, you won't get run over because you know how to cross a road properly, etc.

pussyinboots · 06/08/2006 01:24

Hi nutcracker,

I was just the same when I was a child!! (started when I was about 5)...I was worrying about the enviroment,animals and starving children and everyone else was wondering what they were having for lunch tomorrow!!

Your dd is v smart this happens alot with v intelligent children they worry an awful lot... but they do eventually rationalize the information they have and learn to deal with it... as others have said just keep reassuring her about her concerns and as she matures she will realise that many of her worries are very unlikely to happen..make her feel safe and secure and she will be fine... take carexx

Joceybean · 06/08/2006 17:42

Hello nutcracker. My dd1 (6yrs) is exactly the same. Its so reassuring that she is not the only one. My dd is even asking for me to sleep in her room some nights. Not because she is afraid of the dark, but because she 'gets lonely' She also has a slight phobia of people being sick. I have no idea where that came from but if she is watching telly and there is reference to it, or she sees someone else she gets very upset. She does not even like me using the 's' word! She also asks things like when will nanny die? even though nanny is very well! Although saying all this makes her sound very intense, she is not wringing her hands 24/7. Just coming up with the coments every now and then. I would/will be reassured with the advice that they grow out of as they get older. Best of luck x

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