Mums of girls - top tips on whinging & crying

[Bugsy2]

I've got two children who could not be more dissimilar. I mastered the art of dealing with DS's roaring tantrums, but now I need to learn how to deal with DD. She has been a very easy going little girl, but now she is 4.5 and I am finding her increasingly hard to deal with.
She is a dictator in our home!!!! So bloody bossy. I think I have probably humoured & indulged her too much as I found her bossiness amusing & now I'm paying the price.
My biggest problem is that when she doesn't get her own way she starts crying & shrieking. She can keep this up for 20 mins to half and hour no problem. The noise is deafening.
With DS, I dealt with tantrums mainly with timeout until he calmed down - do I do the same with the crying? Is it her form of a tantrum?
Any guidance gratefully received.

this is what girls do!!!!!

Sorry, lack of help there.

I am a mum of three girls!!!!and believe me, they do this for ageeeeeessssss.

and sad to say, it lasts until they are about 7.....so for me I have had them go thro this one after 'nother after 'nother, and it gets rather tedious eventually......

soooooo....tips

ignore and treat as tantrum, same as you are doing for you son. they ARE different creatures, believe me, and I can say that as I also have two boys too!!!

tell her you can't hear her until she speaks in a normal voice. will work about half the time, but it does help

if you are in a good enough mood, speak back in same type of voice....the look of shock can be comical enough top stop anything, and also makes me less ranging mummy monster too

my best one tho to work is just to say 'pardon' each and everytime they start.
and then, 'sorry, I don't understand this voice you are using....wheres your nice voice'.
seems to stop it, but then, like I say, I have had three to practise on and so they know how far to take it now.

ooh, and to make it all lots better, it lasts from about 4-7yrs, and then re-starts with puberty....about 11yrs for my DD1, who is now 12 and driving me NUTS[sob]

love them all really

Thanks Psycho! It is somehow reassuring to know that it is her form of tantrum. Because it is crying my instinct is to comfort her, but actually I've realised this is just fuelling the frequency & making her even more of a PITA!!!
Can I just say that I take my hat off to you for raising 5. Two push me to the limits of my endurance. I am in awe of Mums like you!

please don't be in awe......pity me.....i am insane!!!!

but otherwise, aww shucks, thanks.

Bugsy, dd didn't do this although lots of her friends did with their parents (& dd sure is making up for it now) but fwiw I would say I'd deal with it as a tantrum too.

You have my sympathy. Crying and shrieking for that amount of time must be horrendous.

Good luck

It does Winnie. I'll be in the assylum with Pyschomum before long!!! Might be a blessing though - bit of peace & quiet.