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"urges" from a VERY early age??

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M2T · 08/03/2004 15:39

As we are potty training just now ds spends most of his time naked from the waist down. Whenever he is watching TV, talking to you etc he is touching his 'willy'. I found it quite funny at first until I noticed that he had made it go a bit hard!! He then proudly announced to me that his "willy was awake!". Lol. I s'pose I do find it funny, but constantly have to tell him to stop touching it! Any suggestions?

ALso, a few weeks ago a friend of mine told me that they are having a spot of bother with their 2yr old DD. Everytime she is in her car seat or high chair she rubs herself quite frantically against the straps! I have witnessed this and she started grunting and going all red! It was very disturbing, especially for her Father. She is only 25mths old.

Is this behaviour normal?

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LIZS · 08/03/2004 15:44

Friends' dd who is 3.5 has been doing the same for over 18 months. They try to ignore it but are obviously uncomfortable and embarrassed by it. dd talks to hers when she is nappyless or in the bath !

twiglett · 08/03/2004 15:46

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BadHair · 08/03/2004 15:48

M2T, when ds1 discovered the joys of touching his willy and making it "go big" we had to keep explaining to him that its not nice to do it all the time and that other people really don't want to watch him doing it. We tried not to make a fuss but to get the message across that it just wasn't acceptable.
Having said that he still has a little feel-up from time to time when he's watching tv and thinks I'm not looking. He's 3.

Galaxy · 08/03/2004 15:48

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M2T · 08/03/2004 15:49

I think I can remember doing that when I was only little. I can remember my Mum telling me to stop it and I said "It feels tickly though Mummy".

Such innocence! Her poor Father was mortified, is was a little bit funny seeing him and my DH cringing.

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handlemecarefully · 08/03/2004 15:50

I'd go for saying nothing too. I can understand why you feel awkward about it (you wouldn't want ds doing this sort of thing in public) but you have to be careful not to leave him with an early hang up about sex which carries over into adult hood (i.e. sex is dirty, something to be ashamed of etc)

I say this as an adult with sex hang ups due to the prissiness of my dear parents! I'm not saying you are prissy btw!

Marina · 08/03/2004 15:58

Yes, it's normal, M2T! Just another cause of suppressed mirth for parents. Ds informed me with a big smirk on his face that his willy "told him to touch it" in the bath. At 4.5, the message about this being something you enjoy in private is starting to sink in, but he still enjoys a rummage while watching TV at home.

Mum2Ela · 08/03/2004 16:20

M2T my DD does exactly what your friends DD does! She has been doing it since she was tiny, like 9 months!! She started doing it in her highchair, then inn the trolley in the supermarket, not so much in her pushchair or carseat, only if she is really annoyed and wants to get out.

It is embarrasing, but what can you do? People just think she doesn't want to be wherever she is. Sometimes I am embarrased and have to get her out of the trolley, which causes problems then trying to shop!

prufrock · 08/03/2004 16:30

My 22 month dd has realised she has another hole and whenever nappyless (so usually in the bath) tries to put her finger in it. She is actually making it a bit sore so I hope she grows out of it soon. Her father was horrified the first time she did it, but I don't think it's any different from her fascination a few weeks with putting her finger up her nose (and declaring "boogies"

prufrock · 08/03/2004 16:31

Bozza · 09/03/2004 12:00

Normal - DS has a bit of a fiddle every so often. Has become very protective over it - if I don't pull up his pants right I get told off. Normally does his own these days though. Also we have lengthy monologues about who has got one and who hasn't. I seem to be quite pitied in our household at the moment.

prettycandles · 09/03/2004 14:10

Our ds couldn't keep his hands off himself for about 3-4 months after he was potty-trained. We ignored it and he stopped of his own accord. He's recently started again, but we still tend to ignore it - other than telling him to 'put it back' when he pulls his bits out of his briefs or pjs.

They're so cute . I wonder what dd will have in store for us when she potty-trains!

jodee · 07/04/2004 20:50

I knew there would be a thread on this subject if I searched - I know it's normal normal normal - but.. ds (4) is constantly having a fiddle (don't think he does it in public (not when I'm around anyway), it's usually when watching TV with PJs on... I usually ignore it but can't stand it when he starts pulling the foreskin right back (eeek!)- makes me wince and I have to tell him to put it away.

LastChance · 07/04/2004 20:59

Thanks everyone....

I will have to remember this thread when my ds reaches "urge age"

I remember reading something a loooooooong time ago that this is normal and not to make a big thing of it (pun not intended!).

tiredemma · 08/04/2004 19:40

well thank god for that!!! my ds likes to have a bath, then lie on the sofa and have a play while watching tv, ive given up telling him i dont want to see it, a few days ago it was sticking up after he had been playing with it and i said " maybe you should leave it alone now" and he looked at me annoyed and said " how can i leave it when it keeps wiggling at me?"

papillon · 08/04/2004 19:45

sorry but ROFL
something to look forward too!
I think I will try and go for the NORMAL NORMAL NORMAL approach except if it gets abit explicit in public

kiwisbird · 08/04/2004 19:59

I have a 10 yr old, the fascination starts when nappies are off and never ends... well I say that my DH is 33 and shows no signs of leaving it alone LOL
I have a dd aged 17 mth who seems to enjoy rubbing herself on the floor...
Tis all very natural, when they are older you can explain about appropriate places to do it etc...

kiwisbird · 08/04/2004 20:00

10 yr old boy that is

papillon · 08/04/2004 20:06

I used to have a cat that rubbed herself on a sheep skin on the top of the couch... visitors were always amazed boy she purrrrred LOL

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