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Cold Turkey Dummy - Day 1

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Pfer · 03/08/2006 08:14

DS2 (22m) has calmed down finally after being very angry with me for taking away all of his dummies first thing this morning.

Screamed and screamed, repeating the mantra "my dummy, my dummy, my dummy", DS1 was quite upset by it all, but remained firm like myself saying "No, you're a big boy now, you don't need a dummy". Have now banned the use of the 'D' word hoping he just forgets about it.

I feel quite upset for the little lad, he looks so lost and keeps rummaging under the sofa's to see if he can find one.

How long does this last? Is it quick or is it a month long job? Please tell me it's over in a couple of days. Please.

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MamaG · 03/08/2006 08:37

I waited until my DD was 3 then Santa took it on Christmas Eve. Yes, I took her dummies away on Christmas Eve.

It worked immediately though,.she never asked for it again.

My DS is 27m and I am NOT looking forward to it...but will probably try the same thing again (eek)

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Pfer · 03/08/2006 12:50

He's been at the childminders this morning, and she's got the patience of a saint so she's kept him busy painting and stuff and he's been fine. Just eaten his lunch and is now starting to wilt a little so nap time may be imminent and he's not asked for it yet. Fingers crossed.

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MamaG · 04/08/2006 15:14

How is it going?

longwaytogo · 04/08/2006 15:33

You brave woman my ds is 2.4yr and i am dreading the day we take them off him, he is more than addicted and I just can't face the tantrums when it goes. DD 3.6 gave hers up on her own.

stoppinattwo · 04/08/2006 21:09

you will do it Pfer, stick with it, couple of days and he will be saying WHAT DUMMY???

mummyoffour · 06/08/2006 23:09

You are so brave Pfer our DS is nearly 3 and has a dummy all day and also at night times, when he loses it during the day and also at night he goes mental and all hell breaks lose and we go on a mad search....that is why we have spare ones now in the house..............let me know how you got on.......

sleepysooz · 06/08/2006 23:26

You lucky things, I wish my ds had a dummy, he has a facination with ears,(normal children have dummy, comfort blanket, thumb, soft toy) yes ears! we can't chop our ears off or give them to santa, he goes scranny without an ear!

We have to give in as we have twins, other is dd, she doesn't have any needs in the night (apart from late nights falling asleep 11.00pm)

So night night ZZZZZzzzzz she's just gone

mummyoffour · 06/08/2006 23:35

sleepysooz thats sounds mad....LOL.......so whose ears does he go to sleep with........only kidding u......so does he love his ts ears?! Oh bless him.....kids eh!!

wartywarthog · 07/08/2006 01:24

mamag, i think that's a really good idea, because they have the diversion of christmas and all the new toys. hmmm

Quootiepie · 07/08/2006 01:32

I remember my mum said the bats took them. One of my earliest memories is standiing in the kitchen, looking up into the sky thinking id see a baby bat with a dummy in its mouth.

psychomum5 · 07/08/2006 01:40

when I withdrew the dummies from my DD2 and DS2 I was planning on waiting until xmas for both.

xmas at the right time for DD2 ended up being bad timing as I had had DD3 just before and she was born with chickenpox resulitng in xmas in hospital. the birthday fairies ended up taking hers...leaving many gifts (as it was one pressies per dummy. how was I to know she stashed away 10[grr][proud od her engenuity(sp?)]). DS2 tho....we went out for DH's xmas do, and BIL and SIL had the boys over. on our way out I realised he had left the dummies at home.....

SIL did the dummy withdraw for us, and told him that santa was taking them for a new baby, and would instead bring him a pressie.....which were some thomas books she had from her own sons.

worked a treat, and took the pressure off me...always a good thing, as I would have been too soft as he tugs my heart cos of his belly probs.

soooo....e now dummy free....sadly tho, thumbs took up residence. mind you, tis the elder girlies with that prob mostly. DS2 does, but only when poorly!

FourJays · 25/08/2006 16:50

How is it going? I need to take dummy off ds2 (29 months) and dreading it. Any tips?

sopgeo · 11/12/2007 20:35

At 3 years 2 months, dd has now gone 3 nights without her dummy. We started off by limiting to sleep time only (naps and at night) then we negotiated with her and agreed that she could have it until she fell asleep then we would take it out. We finally got rid of it completely by saying that Father Christmas said he would get her a big girl present for Xmas if she surrendered all her dummies to the Christmas fairy babies!!!! I think the whole timing of getting rid of a dummy probably works better when they are old enough to negotiate with (and you have something to bribe them with!). Good luck

bobblehead · 11/12/2007 22:51

I'm doing it the wimps way and starting with day time use only. I can't face doing night times yet, but as soon as dd1 (2.6) accepts that its gone during the day I'll worry about nights!

lisa34 · 12/12/2007 02:26

My ds was 4 before he gave up his dummy - we put them on the xmas tree and santa left him a present - worked a treat he never asked for it back. Good luck

imagineafullnightsleep · 12/12/2007 13:02

I have a ds of my own now (who has a dummy), but when I was little, my earliest memory was "giving" my dummy away! I've spoken to my mum about it, and she said I was 26 months old and the deal was, that I had to give my dummy to Father Christmas - I got given pressie's and Father Christmas gave all the dummy's to the new babies in the world !! Sounds a bit bizzarre, but I threw the dummy into the fire myself - and I remember thinking that I was a big girl now because only babies had a dummy ! Not sure if it works - but might be worth a try ?

minouminou · 12/12/2007 15:28

I remember my mum saying "when that dummy's broken/lost/whatever, you're not having another one", so i chucked it on the floor in the street to see if she meant it, and she did.
ds was doing well until all his teeth decided to come at once, now he's mad for it again, although he doesn't use it at nursery
gonna go cold turkey as well, i think, i just have to stop shifting the deadline

smartiejake · 12/12/2007 18:38

We bribed our 2 dds when they were about three. Took them to a toy shop and let them choose a toy. Left it unopened on the end of the bed and said if they went to bed with out the dummy they could open the toy in the morning. Worked a treat!

Wumbee · 14/12/2008 09:14

Hi - my first time on mumsnet, but i have found this chat ex useful. My daughter is my first and only and at 2.3 we feel that her 'sucky' is stalling her speech development as she talked very early and well, but is now missing certain sounds like the 'pl' from please. I am at present trying putting the suckies in a special container (with fifi on!) and explaining that she is not a baby any more and doesn't need them in the day and they are for sleep times only.

Am seriously considering the Father Christmas thing, but does this lead to a grim Christmas day if it isn't totally successful?! Also, I want to potty train her over the hols (as I'm a teacher), and guess I could do both together under the 'big girl' banner!

Am I being hopelessly optimistic here?

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