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Party Invites, being left out

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Rhiannon · 28/02/2002 23:25

After a recent run-in with one of the mothers at school, I was debating whether or not to invite her son to my son's party. As we have invited the whole class it seemed rather petty to leave this boy out and I invited him along with the rest.

Another Mum asked me today "are you going to O's party on Saturday?". The other Mum has obviously not included my son in her party organisation. How sad for her as now she has to RSVP my invite, the old cow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I'm not bitter and twisted really I'm not!R

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Ems · 06/03/2002 11:01

One of my sons favourite books is Q Pootle 5. (author: Nick Butterworth) Anyone else love this?

At the end they have a party on the moon, big double page picture of party table and all the different themed foods. Star biscuits, saturn rings, rocket jelly, UFO cake, delta wing sandwiches.

So we are planning a Q Pootle party and are going to recreate all the foods, fortunately very simple. DS is very enthusiastic, which I think is great, if you make them feel involved in the party and planning, they love it. We always go to Woolworths for him to choose the party plates etc.

My point is ... pick a simple theme, and watch how it develops as you chat about it and plan it together.

Lizzer · 06/03/2002 13:00

Oh Ems (lizzer sighs) you know some days when I read your posts I just think to myself...'wow, to be as organised and brightly idea-ed as Ems would be fantastic!' Alas, I fear it'll never happen to me

( hope you are ok by the way, feel like I've not 'talked' to you for ages )

Scummy-hope all goes well for your twins' party

Ems · 06/03/2002 13:08

Ha-Ha! Honestly, the ideas are few and far between, I'm as knackered and fog brained as everyone!

Although I much prefer the threads that trigger my 'hidden' creativity as opposed to the ones that trigger debate. If you see what I mean, much more me!

Marina · 06/03/2002 15:10

Ems, as a 100% useless cake, scissors and paint sort of person, you attract my profound admiration and envy. I can READ Q Pootle 5 to my son very well but the idea of using it to theme a party had never even entered my head. I salute you.

pamina · 06/03/2002 20:32

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Rhiannon · 06/03/2002 21:29

I thought you got cakes from the supermarket, is it possible to make them yourself? Mine wants a neutral football cake to please all his friends, how sweet. R

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helenmc · 06/03/2002 21:42

We did a square green cake and put white lines on it so it lokked like a football pitch for dh birthday. Have discovers www.bakerross.co.uk for loads of good stocking fillers. sorry although I'm officially a senior database administrator consultant dunno how to do web links!!!

Ailsa · 06/03/2002 21:48

I'm NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER making cakes again, not after taking a whole week to make a mr men cake, not just a cake with pictures on it, it had to be in the shape of them. Has anyone ever tried making a football shaped cake?

Last year there was no cake for their parties, as dh took a few friends to McDonalds and Ballyhoo (similar to Wacky Warehouse but bigger). They both had their birthdays while we were on holiday so the tour operator arranged a joint cake (paid for by them).

The year before that I bought cakes.

The two years before that we didn't have parties, I just couldn't cope with having parties for then 1 & 4 yr olds, and 2 & 5 yr olds within a week of each other.

This year will be similar to last, as we're off on holiday again on dd's birthday and ds has his in the middle of the holiday, same as last year. DD keeps asking why we always have our holidays when it's her birthday.

One this is definite though, we are NOT doing any day trips on ds's birthday, I'm going to lock him up in the cupboard so that he can't have any accidents. Last year he fell flat on his face, and we travelled from Alicante back to our hotel in Benidorm with his clothes and mine covered in blood. We're still seeing the effects now because the dentist thinks he has damaged the nerves to his top two front teeth! They're now a horrible brown colour round the edges, and they used to be nice and white. sob sob.

sorry for rambling and going off the subject slightly.

Some people probably think I'm being mean, but one of my first thoughts if either dd or ds hasn't been invited to a party is to (after wondering why they haven't been invited), think of the money I'm saving by not feeling obliged to buy a present.

SueW · 06/03/2002 22:26

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Rozzy · 07/03/2002 10:08

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wendym · 07/03/2002 13:19

Tescos do a plain white birthday cake. With some writing or roll out coloured icing this might turn into almost anything without the bother of making a cake.

Bee · 07/03/2002 15:28

I got fed up of making cakes that no-one ate, and throwing away cake that the kids brought home. What my son really likes is strawberries, so I bought a Tesco's sponge cake filled with jam (about a pound) put a bit of cream on top to stick things down, and then covered it in strawberry halves, plus candles. Went down a treat.

Bumblelion · 07/03/2002 17:19

For my daughter's christening, I bought the 12" square white iced sponge cake from Sainsburys - cost £8.99 (if I remember rightly - it was only about 4 weeks ago!), they write on it for you in the price and all I bought was a pink ribbon (which went unused as it came with a ribbon round it too) and a little stork to stick on the top.

Much cheaper than getting one made at a bakers and much nicer too.

I am not very good at making cakes but for my daughter's 7th birthday two years ago I decided to make some fairy cakes as I thought you can't go too wrong with them. I bought a cake mix and added coloured icing and smarties/licorice allsorts, etc. to the tops. I thought they hadn't turned out too bad until one little girl asked if she could leave her cake as it was hurting her teeth! Needless to say, I have never made any cakes since.

MandyD · 08/03/2002 08:20

I'm so looking forward to my son's third birthday next week because playgroup, where he goes full-time, always put on a special party for every child's birthday.

One of the other children's father works in a Turkish bakery and Turkish party cakes are a dream: really light sponge with masses of fresh fruit and fresh cream. And a giant one will only cost £10. I hope there's some left after the party to bring home!

It's a good thing he will be having his party at playgroup because we will be in the middle of moving house so wouldn't be able to do much at home ourselves.

Rozzy · 08/03/2002 22:21

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Lindy · 09/03/2002 20:20

Pamina - I made the following for my DS's birthday this week, cheap and easy:

you need a baking tin about 7 x 10 inch (imperial - sorry, showing my age!) Line with baking paper.

3 eggs/6oz soft marge/6oz SR flour/6oz caster sugar

Mix up, shove in oven, about 20 -25 mins, when cool cover with a glace or butter icing & decorate with dolly mixture or smarties in child's name or age.

So easy, and only costs about £2 - I begrudge even paying a tenner on a cake for a child (plus we are miles from a supermarket) - I made two, one for playgroup & one for afternoon family party, easier to make than a typical round cake.

You could make it chocolate by adding cocoa powder.

Sorry if this appears too domestic !!

Lindy · 09/03/2002 20:22

PS Don't forget the candles!

pamina · 09/03/2002 22:34

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cos · 16/03/2002 21:51

foolproof cake recipe from my nanny:
weigh your eggs (3 or 4)
add same weight of selfraising flour, marg and sugar, mix together, put in greased tin
bake for 20 minutes

ScummyMummy · 03/04/2002 08:51

The boys' birthdays were great! Thanks everyone for your words of wisdom! Taking your advice into account the boys had a "nursery birthday" and a birthday outing to the park (the zoo was a bit far away...)and a good time- and lots of cake- was had by all.

chick · 03/04/2002 09:45

cos!!!

that's always been my foolproof cake recipe! and everytime i told people what it was they were amazed that i went by the weight of the eggs... you are the first person who's heard of it!!! i got it from a husband of one of my moms friends who used to be a chef on a ship!!!

i would add that if you want to make it a chocolate cake, a third of your SR flour should be cocoa (not drinking choc as this just makes it sweeter as opposed to choccy!!!)

Hmmm! cakes!!!

hope all parties went well!

Hi · 05/04/2002 16:40

HELP... just loggen in and feeling excited about an easy foolproof receipe but useless in kitchen help me asap please and tell me how hot should my oven be... please! I have gas but tell me in whatever you know. help me asap please? dd sleeping so haven't got much time will the mixture keep will I burn it or am I a complete fool?? no don't answer that last question!

Pupuce · 05/04/2002 16:58

Don't understand the question... what are you cooking ?

Pupuce · 05/04/2002 17:00

If Cos recipe - probably 180 degress = 6 gas mark I think.

Hi · 05/04/2002 17:18

thank you pupuce! WAITING NOW!!!