ok, I have a friend of a friend with a dd in my dd's nursery. This child will start school in Sept and is a year older than my DD.
Although I'd known her distantly for some years, this woman started a friendship with me when her DD started nursery as our dd's generally play well together - esp at nursery.
In 2 out of the 3 times we've been in eachother's company however, this child has 'kicked off' big time, over nothing particularly obvious. And the sheer unadulterated rage in her is truly scary.
She can't be ignored as she screams and pelts us (even my dd) all with whatever comes to hand - toys, stones whatever. She then starts to get angry with my DD, who when this kicks off, tends to sidle over to me out of uncertainty. If my DD tries to intervene and cheer her up, she react violently to the point where I've had to pick my DD up to avoid her being swiped at.
My friend obviously has no idea how to deal with her (she is a mature very confident woman btw and her dd is her youngest but not her only child.) She threatens to remove her but capitulates numerous times until she's left as she sees it with no option but to carry it through, and so they leave.
The thing is, I have no desire to be in this child's company - as I have no idea (and neither does her mother) what triggers these outbursts, so consequently can't avoid them. I do quite enjoy the woman's company and I know she will suggest us meeting up soon, but I'm not sure I can be arsed with her DD.
If they were to call round and her DD kicked off, I want to say 'just get her out of here' in a nice way. How would you handle it?