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Putting your baby into his/her own room

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Taler · 21/01/2014 05:09

Myself and my DH are at the point where we are seriously considering putting our 10 wk old DD into the nursery. Her fidgety grunty noises are sooooooo loud that even though they don't seem to wake her (alrough I still don't see how this gives her anything other than a disturbed sleep!!!), we get no sleep either side of her middle of the night feed. I can't believe how 'unsettled' she sounds all the time!!!!!

I just wondere from any other mums who have their babies in their own room whether a) your monitors still pick up all these noises and b) how long did it take before you stopped going in to check on them?

Even after 10 weeks I still constantly look in her Moses basket to make sure she's ok as some of her grunty noises sound like they will wake her and/or that she's really unsettled.

And just FYI I have rolled up t shirts in there of mine but seems to make no difference! Yet if I held her or brought her into bed she'd be as quiet and as still as anything?!?!?!

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bella411 · 21/01/2014 08:01

My dd was in her own room from 9 weeks, she was a wiggly bum liked to stretch out her arms and they'd then get caught in the crib. Her noise would wake us and our noise would disturb her.

My monitor picked up the crying but once in her cot she. Had more room and so wasn't waking herself up from her arms trapped.

In regards to checking on them, first week or so is a lot and then u calm down. My dd is almost 10 mo and I check before I go to bed, as I go to bed and in middle of the night if I wake up and if she still asleep and I wake up in the mornin I go check.

There's still time when I go and rub her when checking and she doesn't stir or cant see/ hear her breathing (though she obviously is )

kw13 · 21/01/2014 12:25

My DS went into his own room at about 10 weeks - we had some smoke damage from a blocked chimney in our room. It was a revelation - we all slept like logs. Previously, everytime my DS had turned over or grunted, me and DH woke up; and every time we turned over or grunted then DS woke up. Once in his own room he was fine - and so were we! We had a monitor and it was absolutely fine. I would check on him when I went to bed and if I got up in the night.

Pixielady83 · 21/01/2014 12:31

DD went into her own room at 12 weeks because of this very reason! I wasn't sleeping properly because I overreacted to every little snuffly noise and woke to check her. Once she went into her own room (just across the landing from ours) I had the monitor on medium sensitivity for a few nights then soon realised that I could hear her when she cried without it so switched it off. We all slept a lot better - a few weeks later she started going 11pm-7am which was amazing (but only lasted til teething started!).

This time we don't have a room ready for the new baby to go into if we need it and I can't imagine we will manage to sort that in the first 12 weeks so hoping I'm a bit less sensitive or have a less snuffly baby!

StormyBrid · 21/01/2014 12:33

We put DD in her own room at six weeks partly because she slept so noisily. The monitor is downstairs permanently. It picks up the slightest sound, so if it had gone in my room I still wouldn't have got any sleep. Figured if she needed me she'd cry and I'd wake up. I still wake up at the slightest vocalisation now she's ten months, but fortunately she's a better sleeper now.

notso · 21/01/2014 12:47

Babies under 6 months are not supposed to go into a deep sleep. That is one of the reasons the SIDS advice is to share a room for 6 months.

Aworryingtrend · 21/01/2014 13:19

Ds went into his room at 17 weeks and slept much better in there. we waited until 17 weeks as I had read the Sids research and read that the risk drops after this.
If you are considering putting LO in their own room at 10 weeks you need to be sure all other risk factors are minimised: non-smoking household, baby put to sleep on back and in feet to foot position, baby not swaddled and room temperature between 16-20 degrees. oh and if LO was premature I would leave it.

NoisyBrain · 21/01/2014 13:21

Ear plugs were the answer for me! So I don't hear DS snuffling but a cry or a cough will always wake me up. I'm a VERY light sleeper.

Callistone · 21/01/2014 13:26

DD went in about 8w. She was sleeping lightly, and DP and I went to bed and woke up at different times because of his work hours, so every few hours someone was going to bed or getting up and it really disturbed DD too. I understood the deep sleep recommendation, but this was too much. We weighed up all the pros and cons and the advice and made a decision we were comfortable with. That's all you can do.

bluebeanie · 24/01/2014 23:47

Dd was 13 weeks when I stopped sleeping in her room. It was originally due to dh working. She's way too much of a noisy sleeper. Dh and I missed each other too much, plus she's transfered to her cot beautifully. That wouldn't fit in our room anyway.

Blankiefan · 26/01/2014 13:47

We put 13 week old DD in her cot in her room last week. The thing that's made it better for us is a video monitor (we got the BT 1000). It's great as you can see what all of the grunts, etc mean so you know when to go in and when she's still asleep; even in the dark.

She had 1 night of disturbed sleep from her usual routine (usually only - awakening at 3pm for a feed but she was up every 2 hours on night 1). She's back to normal now.

It took me about 4 nights to sleep soundly and trust that I'd waken up if she needed me. I totally do.

Also, I'd recommend using her room / monitor for naps first. We did this for 2 weeks before she moved for nights. We also did a week of settling her for the evening in her cot and moving her back in with us into her Moses basket when we went to bed.

Video monitors aren't proven to reduce the SIDD risk. You've got to do your own research and make your own decision. Yes, it's not recommended but many people do it. The video monitor gives me some comfort and I'm happy with the balance we've gone with but you have to consider the risks for yourself.

Blankiefan · 26/01/2014 13:48

She had 1 night of disturbed sleep from her usual routine (usually only - awakening at 3pm for a feed but she was up every 2 hours on night 1). She's back to normal now.

It took me about 4 nights to sleep soundly and trust that I'd waken up if she needed me. I totally do.

Jaffakake · 26/01/2014 14:13

Ds went in his room at about 8 weeks. He was outgrowing his Moses basket & with him, dh & the cat all snoring I was beginning to lose my mind. We all got lots more sleep & I'm not sorry I did it.

Imho Avoiding SIDs is a look at a number of risk factors. I think if risks like smoke don't apply and they're happy & healthy in other regards its unnecessary to get it all out of proportion, but I accept we'd never forgive ourselves etc etc.

At first we'd leave the monitor on in our room, but realised pretty quickly it was unnecessary as we could hear him when needed anyway. I still check on him at 2.5yrs when we go to bed, but that's chucking off his duvet related!

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