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How to stick to SIDS advice and not go to bed at 7pm every night?!

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FlissyFloo · 19/01/2014 14:27

I'm really confused by this and was hoping to hear how other people have approached this...
My ten week old DD has a bedtime routine which we start at 8.30pm so she's in bed at 9pm, which means DH and I go to bed then too! We would like to start moving this closer to 7pm, but honestly can't understand how people do this while sticking to the advice about baby sleeping in the same room as us. Surely if we keep her downstairs with us while we're eating/tidying up/watching TV then we can't keep things dark and quiet for her?!
What do you do/what did you do? Are we missing something obvious?!

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itispersonal · 19/01/2014 22:50

Sorry its not making a rod for your back having a baby sleep in a dark quiet room on their own. If a baby is only used to noise aren't they going to feel scared / disorientation etc if they wake up from bein asleep and it is quiet and dark! My dd will sleep through either and that has go to be the preferred solution.

Lj8893 · 19/01/2014 22:53

Well surely in the evenings and night she is always going to be in a dark quiet room so not sure why that's going to be a problem!! Hmm

itispersonal · 19/01/2014 22:56

Lj I agree, soon is spouting rubbish!

itispersonal · 19/01/2014 22:58

My dd slept on her own for few hours each night in her crib and from 9 weeks she was in her own room.

She has always slept well day and night, noise and no noise!

Lj8893 · 19/01/2014 23:00

Yep, I'm hardly going to be putting hee to bed in a bright loud room all her childhood am I!!

Like I said, since I've been putting her to sleep in a dark quiet room she sleeps brilliantly and is much much happier in the daytime.

Happy baby, happy mummy.

perfectstorm · 19/01/2014 23:23

The primary SIDS risk factors are not putting the baby on its back, smoking in pregnancy or around the baby, and breastfeeding for less than two weeks, according to what I've been told. These factors are more likely to be present in very low-income households, with less contact with HCP and information on child safety. Therefore a higher risk in those infants is explicable without poverty being a causal factor in itself.

Since Back To Sleep started, cot deaths have been cut by 70%. Given that also coincides with the widespread use of grobags (they're safer in terms of suffocation risk avoidance, plus the baby can't kick them off and waken when cold) it just isn't possible that the reduction is because babies can kick covers off when lying on their backs and thus not overheat. It has to have something key to do with the sleeping position itself. No other explanation holds up. Overheating may be a risk, co-sleeping, separate rooms, not using a dummy, and so on. But given the huge reductions since the sleep position/smoke risks were made known, they can't be the primary causes. The 70% reduction means that's already been identified, surely?

To be honest I'm amazed if anyone still puts a newborn on their fronts. I had this argument with my MIL who just can't accept what she was told was wrong, and insists front is safer - I appreciate it's horrible to be told something you did in good faith for the benefit of your baby is actually more dangerous, but I suspect every generation will have to grapple with something along those lines. Several kids with serious nut allergies may have them partly because their conscientious mums followed the advice at the time to avoid all nuts in pregnancy.

All I know is that for every 3 babies who now die of SIDS, 7 don't, and it's largely attributable to Back to Sleep. I for one am bloody grateful for the info.

LittleBearPad · 19/01/2014 23:38

We kept DD in her Moses basket with us in the sitting room. TV and side lamps were always on. She slept fine. DH used to bring her up to our room when he came up.

LittleBearPad · 19/01/2014 23:39

And keeping babies with you is so they can hear you, not so you can hear them. Monitors don't achieve this.

differentnameforthis · 20/01/2014 02:05

Surely if we keep her downstairs with us while we're eating/tidying up/watching TV then we can't keep things dark and quiet for her?!

The best thing we did for both dds was expose them to noise & light while sleeping. They are fabulous sleepers who will sleep anywhere. We can also hoover in their rooms while they sleep (we don't, often, but we can).

Some noise & light isn't a bad thing, imo.

lljkk · 20/01/2014 03:20

I'll probably get flamed because we just went with 9pm bedtimes for everyone (age 0-45 years). Worked for us.

FixItUpChappie · 20/01/2014 03:23

when mine were really little...say, a month old, they'd just sleep in the living room. However, they do start to get disturbed by the noise/lights at some point - then We'd just put them to sleep in their Moses basket in our room and join them when ready. I think this is fine.

Realistically, if you had two kids you wouldn't be able to go to sleep with your youngest and nap with them etc. To my understanding the main ones are back to sleep, no smoking and temperature control. You can also provide a soother and I keep a fan in my kids rooms (NOT pointed at them) for air circulation as per some recommendations. i personally, felt comfortable with the measures we took/take.

MiaowTheCat · 20/01/2014 13:20

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