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Behaviour at Birthday parties

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Caketime4me · 19/01/2014 08:41

My daughter is 6. She is generally content, not too badly behaved, happy at school & has friends. Her behaviour completely changes at children's parties and it is quite embarrassing. It is particularly obvious if there are games with one winner or an element of competition. For a start she will not let me leave the party (virtually every other parent does). I don't mind staying but she is clingy, will not take part, wants sweets from the outset, complains if she does not like the sweets, is tearful and winges if she does not win or at the smallest incident. I think my best bet is to make an excuse and not go to the next party or insist if she wants to go that I do not go with her (she would not dare behave like this on her own I hope!!). Does anyone has any similar experiences or ideas? If she was 3 I could understand it more.

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MatriarchMommy · 19/01/2014 08:45

My 6yo does this, he did it yesterday at a birthday party. I had already warned him that i would take him home. So i did. I felt awful about it but im hoping now he knows i will actually take him home i'm hoping he will behave so i wont have to do it again.
He spent his own party sitting under a table refusing to come out.

Jinty64 · 19/01/2014 09:39

At 6 she is old enough for you to discuss it with her. I would decide on a strategy, tell her what will be happening and stick to it. I would not stay at a party with any of mine at this age. The choice would be staying alone or declining the invitation.

LastingLight · 19/01/2014 10:40

I would explain to her what acceptable behaviour is like at parties and take her to one more. If she doesn't change the way she behaves then no more parties.

Starballbunny · 19/01/2014 11:00

Six is a funny age.
DCs can be really grown up and then choose something or somewhere to revert to being toddlers.

DD2 was a star at school, ballet and in public. She was horrible at home and had her moments at swimming.

I think subconsciously they realise six is the last time any one will give them any lea way. Soon they will be juniors and expected to be sensible.

In the end they accept things need to change, DD wasn't cross when her swimming teacher refused to give her her next badge, she knew she hadn't tried.

At home she'd go to her room to calm down with out a fight and gradually came to realise the world couldn't always revolve around her.

Caketime4me · 24/01/2014 07:34

many thanks for help. we are away for the next party which I am disappointed about was hoping to try the tactics !

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