woukd this worry you?

[babyjane67]

Have a5yr old dd
This morning while helping her get dressed for school she said 'tickle my boobies mummy!'
To whuch i replied 'no im not doing that!'
Then reiterated what ive told her before that noone touches her there or her bits.only her
I then asked her if anyone had&she said 'daaaa um noone!'
So i said 'daddys tickled yr boobies?'
'No'she said noone has
Just been playing on my mind bit
Wondered what yr reactions would be?
Dd&dp are very close.always have been.its his only child&my3rd
Shes also had4nights in a row where shes wojen up wantibg to come in with us which ive let her(im always the one who gets up to her)&the4th night she wike had had an accudent wettung the bed which she hasnt done day or night for ages now!
We have had a very stressfullast few months though so it may be a result of her picking up on this
Tia

Sorry for the type os.am on phone!

Sorry for the type os.am on phone!

It doesn't matter if it would worry anyone else as it's worried you. I really feel for you....I think, if you have any worries that there is a number to call which will let you stay private....someone will come and add it soon I am sure....

I think you need to listen to your gut. You must always protect your DD above anything. At the same time I must add that 5 year olds don't have boobies. The private area for a five year old is the area covers by her pants.

Thankyou both fir yr replies
Onesie shes always called them boobies as thata what she calls mine
Ive looked on nspcc site&sges not displaying any 'classic'signs
Ie using older than her age words for her private bits,playing inapprooriate games with her toys etc
She never shys away from dp uts always very much the ither wat around!
shes a real daddys girl&wants him to do everything wuth her when hes home
Tgey tickle play alot&sonetimes she doesnt want it&asked him to stop(while still laughing)but he doesnt til she really shouts at him no daddy!
then he will&ive talked ti him about it after sayibg that he really should stip when she aaks him to as we're trying to teach her to say no ie stranger danger etc
Might just be me readibg too much into thing&over thibking
I am bit prone to this

I suspect she's just play8ing with gender identity, one day she'll have boobies so she's trying to figure out what that would be like, and what they might be good for.

It's worth talking about what she thinks of breasts.

Yea but ive got2grown up dds&i dont remember either if them asking me to tickle their boobies!

so they were different people who grew up with different perspectives?

I'm not saying it's nothing but mostly likely it is entirely innocent, and anyway, there's nothing wrong with asking about what she thinks of boobies.

Lots of children at this age talk frequently about willies and boobies. Strange that its worried you though.

Lljk yea my oldest2are from a previoys relationshio
Their dad&i brike up qhen they were quite small so it was just us3girls fir a long time
Im probablt making more of ut tgan there is

DH tickles DD all the time and she loves it and I wouldn't think anything of it. On her chest seems a perfectly reasonable spot to be tickled and it seems to be more just the vocabulary that's bothering you.
I agree that your DP should stop if she has any resistance though, she needs to learn that she has control.

You are right to insist that your partner stops the MOMENT she says he must. Tell him all of her future relationships will be based on the one she has with him...he is her role model for a man and one day she will choose someone to be her partner...she must know that good men don't carry on regardless.

Yea its prob tge fact that my oldest girls never rally had a male influence was just ne
So now witg my dp beibg around this time its dufferent
Gettung used to it
I duno.i have had few 'niggles'about it on&off for a while but aa i say its prob
Cuz im not ysed to having a
man around&seeibg it i spose