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[HoneyCupcakes]

Sorry, I don’t even know whether or not if I have posted this in the correct category. I am at the end of the line with my 7 year old I don’t know what to do, I am just hoping that someone else here is going through the same situation with their son/daughter

My DS has been diagnosed with OCD and ADHD he attends a specialist school for children with behavioural problems, I don’t believe that he has any behavioural problems he is just behaving the way he does because he can.

Today when I went to collect him I was held back by his teacher for her to tell me that him and a few other boys in his class have been bullying a boy so badly that he doesn’t want to attend school anymore, I am disgusted but it is no shock to me, when I asked him why he had been bullying the child in question, he looked at me like I was crazy and as if he didn’t know what I was speaking about, every time he does something wrong that is what he does, he will act like he doesn’t know what I am talking about and carry on as if he hasn’t done anything wrong.

He is just making my whole life a misery, I don't like going out during the day whilst he is at school, because I can’t go far incase I get a phone call from his school telling me to come and collect him, just before he broke up for the Christmas holiday he attacked one of his teaching assistants with a pair of scissors it wasn’t too serious but she did need medical attention, and in the past he has pulled out knifes on me, and he frequently does and does try to attack me, I also have a 2 year old from my current partner, he has never ever been violent towards him or tried to hurt him but he has injured my partner many of times.

I don’t even like taking him out in public, it always resorts to him running away or hiding, me having to buy him something to keep him quiet, if I don’t it will just resort into him sulking or embarrassing me. This has been going on for too long I have tried everything but nothing seems to work, it feels like I am going through a nervous break down due to him and it is not fair on my 2 year old as I can't take him out during the day. There is so much more that I want to write but I would be here until the morning and it will just anger me even more

That all sounds v hard but I am not sure I understand: he attacks people, he does not react as one would expect when questioned about his behaviour, he goes to a school for children with behavioural problems, but you don't think he actually has a behavioural problem?

Hi, Thank you for answering yes I know what I said does sound confusing, the reason I believe he doesn't have behavioural problems is because he has shown evidence that he knows how to behave, he is as good as gold when my mother and friends look after him, he just chooses to behave the way he does with myself, my partner and at school.

Hi Honey, it sounds like you're having a really tough time. You might like to read some other threads and/or post in this section: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs .

I'm no expert, but I do know that it is very difficult to get a child diagnosed with ADHD, and very very difficult to get a diagnosis of OCD. If your child has these diagnoses at such a young age, and a place at a special school already, then he does have problems.

It must feel very frustrating, difficult and even hurtful that he seems to be able to behave well with some other people, but not at school and not with you. That doesn't mean he's 'choosing' to behave badly though, and in fact these behaviour differences might be part of his ADHD and/or OCD.

It really sounds like you need some help, including some parenting support and some respite (a break). It's not always easy to get the support you need, and you might have to fight for it. Start asking for help: ask your son's social worker, ask the school, ask your GP. You can phone social services directly and tell them you are not coping very well and you are worried for your younger child. Tell them what you have told us here. I know it can be embarrassing to ask for help, but really, you are in a very difficult situation, and you and your family deserve some more support. :)

Thank you, I will repost in that section!

Have you attended the Triple P Parenting course?

It's a course for parents of children with disabilities so it would be appropriate for you to attend. The course helps you to look at your child's behaviour and the reasons behind it and they work with you to make a behaviour management plan to suit your own child and your own family circumstances.

Your family support worked can put your name forward.