Help!!! Now dreading feed time :(

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My 9.5 wk old DD has recently decided that under no circumstances will she be winded!!!

I always let her have a real good fairly long glue before breaking to wind her (as I'm pretty sure the reason she makes such a fuss is because she simply wants to carry on feeding).

When I do break to wind her she pushes back and squeals and cries and if I tried to continue to wind her she will get herself in such a state which of course I don't want, so I therefore give in and give her the bottle back.

Occasionally she will self-wind but it bothers me that she won't let me wind her! It carries on this way sometimes right to the end of that feed, sometimes just before.

I now don't remotely look forward to feed times, which is a real shame as it should be and used to be a lovely time for both of us with plenty of eye contact :(

Would value any suggestions you may have.

If she's happy and wants to feed, why do you need to stop to feed her? I never wind DD -if she's squirmy I'll sit her upright for a bit but that's all.

Surely she needs winding at least a few times during her feed???

I only ever winded DD if she stopped during a feed. Normally she'd squirm a bit when there was a oz or so left so I'd wind her and then she'd usually finish the rest, if not i did it at the end of the bottle. If she doesn't want to stop feeding and starts to cry she'll take in more air. The easiest way is to be led by her

I could have written this post! My daughter is 12 weeks, since the very early days she has had a good old scream whenever the bottle is taken away. She gave us a two week reprieve at around 6-8 weeks and we thought we were safe, then she started again!

We gave up winding her halfway through - she was taking in more air whilst having her little rant anyway. Now, when we finish a bottle, I put her dummy straight in her mouth and sit her up to wind. When she burps the dummy just gets burped right out! It doesn't work every time and we still get the screaming fits, but they always pass within less than a minute (obviously this method is only good if you use a dummy!).

I used to really hate feeding her in public (and still sometimes feel anxious about it) because I would think people must be judging me - people have said things like "oh, is she on pain?" Or "she must still be hungry!" But I really have come to realise that it isn't a pained cry or a hungry cry, she is just angry that her bottle has been taken away! But it might be worth mentioning to your HV or GP just in case there is something underlying that is causing her to be uncomfortable.

Thank you. Good to know others experience same. HV visiting next week so'll mention to her

Why wind her if she is happy feeding? Sounds weird to me. Is someone took away my cup of tea half way through and started bouncing me about I'd scream too.

Just feed until she seems uncomfortable or pulls away. Then wind her.

I've never heard of winding part way through a feed. Is that a thing now?

I'm sorry this sounds really stressful for you, could you try just winding her at the end of the feed and see what happens?