Recently separated and 3year old now wetting herself

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I know she must be stressed :(

We're being amicable at the moment.

But she is wetting herself 1-2 times per day.

Generally if she has a little strop, eg today wanted carrying upstairs, I had things in my hands so said wait there a minute and I'll come done for you. Cue mummmeeee I've had an accident.

She doesn't seem upset about it. I've told her not to worry, changed her and said next time let me know and you can use the toilet or potty.

I'm not sure if I'm doing the right thing. Do I just keep doing this, and she will improve naturally as she gets more settled.

Should I talk to her more about the wetting - she doesn't seem to want to.

I presume I shouldn't tell her off, or offer to go back to nappies etc.

Just want some advice. I feel even more guilty about the separation.

Things have changed, and although things are amicable she may be sensing the stress around her. Just keep going as you would do wrt the accidents if you were still together but try to reasure her as much as possible, with actions rather than wirds, that everything will be ok.

In the early days after I split from my ex, DS slept in my bed for several weeks (until he told me he prefered his own company, thank you very much, and departed to his room). Keeping to the old rutines also helped.

Try also to be kind to yourself, you had good reasons to leave this relationship, try not to feel guilty, you are doing the best you can, and for the time being that is more than enough :-)

Thanks. I just wasn't sure what to do for the best. I think I'll keep telling her it's ok but that it is best to wee in the toilet and to tell me next time she needs to go. Although I don't think she often 'needs' to go, it's more that she manages to squeeze some out.

I know these early days are tough and confusing for us all. I suppose it's surprised me though, as she is used to her Dad working away in the week. I suspect that its the time away from me that is upsetting her, although it's hard to explain that to her Dad.

It is a time for many adjustments. My ex also yraveled with work so what we said to Ds was that from then on he was going to have a little holiday at Dads in alternate weekends. It helped, he saw it as their very own adventure time.

It is worth persevering, eventually she will get used to be on her own with his dad's and that will help them to build up in thei relationship as daughter and father.