My son is hearing voices

[OakLuz]

Over the past 2 weeks my 8 year old son has been hearing voices and sounds in his "ears and head" he says the person who is speaking to him is a man and his name is Joseph, he cries none stop and says that he is scared. I have done my research on schizophrenia and it is very unlikely he has that, I have suggested we take a trip to the doctors but he doesn't want to go I just don't know what to do next, his behaviour is deteorating day by day, he no longer wants to eat because he thinks there is poison in the food etc. I will be grateful for any advice

Luz

I'm sure the GP would make a house call as necessary. In fact, that might be best

Absolutely second the posts saying that you need to take control of the situation - seeing the doctor is not a choice for your son to make

It sounds like you're basically a single mum when it comes to parenting, maybe even more so than kids who have a dad they see at weekends. You've done brilliantly to bring 4 kids up this way, but it's a lot of stress for you too. Do you have any support like friends, family, au pair? The aspergers, underlying stress and kidney infection seem to be coming up a lot. I hope doc is really thorough. Do let us know how it goes.

Sorry I am just getting back to you, I didn't managed to take my son to the doctors, he has had a very bad day today. I had an argument with ny husband this morning because he didn't want to take my 7 year old to school he eventually did I asked him to collect him as well but he wouldn't so my daughter had to leave school early to go and collect him.

He has been crying and shivering for most of the day and is still complaining of headache, I will call the surgery tomorrow and request a home visit.

I try my best but I still feel as if I am failing as a parent :(

Things that spring to mind

ASD - look at the national autistic website. Get an Ed psych's assessment via GP or school.
Depression
Brain Tumour (sorry to mention this but this happened to my friends son

Oh Oakluz, I'm so sorry you've had such a dreadful time. I'm sure you realise just how important it is to get your DS to the doctor in the very short term.

However, I think you also realise that things are not all good in your family unit. There's no easy answer here, as your DH clearly needs to participate in this issue and perhaps in some wider family therapy. However, it sounds like he would probably resist this.

Still. For now, you are where you are and all you can do is your best for your boy. Please let us know how things go if it helps you.

Your husband is an arse. Sorry.

SireeDubs What you have said has shaken me up (Brain tumour) it makes me want to take him to a&e. WipsGlitter he sure is acting like one, I won't defend him. It is almost like he doesn't care, he has come home tonight and not even asked how our son is.

SireeDubs What you have said has shaken me up (Brain tumour) it makes me want to take him to a&e. WipsGlitter he sure is acting like one, I won't defend him. It is almost like he doesn't care, he has come home tonight and not even asked how our son is.

OP sorry you have had a difficult day. Please do try again to take DS to the doctor, he urgently needs to be seen. You may have to be assertive with your son and not give him a choice about going. You could give him a reward if he does go...yes perhaps bribery but if it gets him there..
The other option if you are severely worried is A&E. If you present him there he would be assessed by a CAMHS worker or a doctor, and that may set the wheels in motion for getting him help. But only do that if you can't get him to the GP.

But please get him help. Doing nothing is not an option.

I second all the advice on here. Deal with your DH later, your priority is to get your DS some medical attention. I hope he is feeling a bit better this evening.

BigW I will be getting him medicial attention tomorrow, he has been asleep since 5 this evening I have been checking on him, and I will be sleeping beside him tonight, he hasn't eaten anything today but I did manage to get him to drink some juice, I will tell the doctor this tomorrow as I don't want him making him more sick than he already is at the moment.

Is he urinating? Please call out of hours GP if not
Does he have a fever?

The headaches also fit with kidney infection & they can be very bad headaches, do you not have an out of hours or paramedic service where you are ?? If so I would rally urge you to get them out to see him, kidney infectios are not good left untreat, it damages the kidneys & can become septicaemia, which untreat can be fatal, at very least a medical emergency & hard to shift even with hardcore IV antibiotics

I can see you are backed up against te wall & not getting the help you obviously need from your DH, you are doing amazingly well considering what you are juggling, but your DS really needs to be seen urgently, you don't have these hallucinations with minor infections - PLEASE call out some help for him

I'm trying not to scare you, but feel I have to get through how serious this potentially could be - I have stage 3 chronic kidney failure as a result of these infections. My DM died last summer partly as a result of an infection that became septicaemia - she was hallucinating when she was taken in

MaryQueenOfSpots I know this is going to sound terrible but I'm not too sure whether he has used the bathroom today, and he was pretty hot this morning but refused some medicine, he wasn't as hot as he was this morning, this evening. Do you think I should wake him now and take him to a&e?

Oh for Gods sake get the child some medical attention now.

Can you get paramedics out to him ?? They will make an assessment & get him to A&E if its needed, I'm sure they have them all areas now

But yes, I think he does need seeing urgently

What is his actual temperature? Have you taken it? When you do finally get medical help for him they are going to want to know that, plus how much he has eaten/ drunk/ toileting etc. There are going to be lots of questions asked, especially as he has been so unwell for such a long time

Yes, OakLuz

Wake your DS up and take him to A&E now.

Don't worry about what anyone else says or thinks. Just go now.

Oak if I'm honest, I worry for you too, you sound very flat, not reacting in a way I would expect at all, I know this is a long shot from a few lines written on a forum, but from the flatness & your situation with DH, I really worry you are depressed :(

How to Assess Fever WITHOUT a Thermometer

He's not eating, barely drinking, has a temperature, you don't know if he's urinated today, he's been asleep since 5...,..take him to A&E or call an ambulance right now IMO.

If he were my ds I would be taking him to A&E this evening. He sounds as if he is in urgent need of medical treatment and when he has recovered physically he needs support to resolve what sounds to me like severe anxiety.

After reading this thread I would urge you to take you Ds to A&e. With the other children too if have no one to look after them.
When my Ds's are ill I always think they are I like babies ( they are 6 &9 btw). It's my jobs to take care of them and get the medical attention to make them better. It doesn't matter what my boys wishes are as they are too young to know what it best for them e.g. If they had a broken leg they wouldn't want anyone to touch it.
Please go to A&e

I've just found this thread. So so sad OP hope you have taken DS to A&E