So, I have a friend I've known since dd1 birth almost. They are 3, just. Her daughter is blimey, either precocious, spoilt (think Bonnie Langford type), or gifted. Knowing both parents she's no more or less spoilt than my dd.
Polly (for made up name) has since 12 mths clearly been er forward. Her language is streets above our other friends. She just seemed well I'm wary of gifted, I don't know the definitions for that, just either bang on point or just above all others. She can argue for instance like a well I dunno what age, but it's a darned sight more than I expected at 3.
They, her mum and her, came for coffee. First time to ours. All other experience is at soft play or baby groups. Polly argued from stepping in the door. Full on foot stamping, arms punching to the floor, tongue out, "ill scweam and scweam until I get what toy I want". Invariably when dd and her left the room, Polly returned with said demanded toy. My dd was plainly quite bemused. She's openly stated since she doesn't like Polly. Frankly so was I, bemused that is. The mum tried to contain it. It was however eye opening. Almost, dear heavens, um, weird to watch. Polly appeared to know how to wind both the situation and mum up. And boy was she adept. I made light but it's bothered me a bit.
If I didn't know both parents I might question that area. If I didn't know background which is you know similar to ours I might question that. It is to my mind the dd. She is different, just now at least . It's why I'm not in gifted. Could all be same in 12mths.
So, assuming, accurately I want to stay friends with mum who is one of the best people I've met since having kids, how do I manage play dates? Free play went bad. I need experience. I need ideas. Wwyd?