10.5 mo sleeping troubles

[notasillysausage]

I posted in chat but reposting here for more advice, please can someone help.

My 10.5 mo is going through a horrible phase. He wakes at night at around 12.30 and won't go back to sleep for three hours no matter what we try. DH and I are dead on our feet!

When he wakes we give him a bottle otherwise he screams blue murder. He then will stop crying but will not settle. Eventually we can get him to fall asleep in our arms but when we put him down in his cot he wakes again.

Last night it took two bottles and lots of rocking until he eventually nodded off. I go back to work in 3 weeks and need proper sleep!

I think this is our fault. He would self settle in his cot before he learnt to stand. Now he just stands and cries and inevitably falls over and hurts himself so we hold him to sleep in our arms at bedtime.

Can anyone give me some advice? Only thing I will not do is the cry it out method, fine for those who choose to do it but I would not have the will power to leave him (insert soft parent emoticon here)

Please can anyone help? Getting desperate!!

I remember those days well and the horrible tiredness is awful so I hope it gets better for you soon.

Both my too were like this and this is what worked for us although I am aware that it wouldn't be most people's ideal solution. I put my two in proper beds (with bed guards) at around 12 months (a bit younger for DD). That way they could get into bed and I'd sit next to them and hold their hand, stroke face etc tilt they were asleep. There was no lowering into the cot to contend with. Once they were old enough to understand I did sticker charts to get them to fall asleep on their own.

Good Luck.

Thank you for the advice. I understand what you mean and cannot wait to put DS into the bed. I think he would be falling out of it constantly at the minute though (ridiculously active and a bit of a dare devil!)

I managed to get him to self settle in his cot last night using the pick up put down method, can't say he was happy about it, but he then slept through yay! I found it really hard as he was upset despite me being there throughout to comfort him but I'm hoping it was for the best and he seems a happy little chap this morning on a full nights sleep.

I'm glad that you had a successful night last night, hope it continues. It's amazing how much better one night's sleep can you feel.