First off, would like to say that I'm new to Mumsnet so please forgive me if this post drags on a bit, I'm just really looking for some reassurance/empathy before I go out of my mind.
I am very worried about my 16 week old baby girls behaviour. I'm a first time mum so as you can imagine pretty much most things concern me as I don't know any better and don't really have a comparison, but I can't help but think there may be something not quite right with my little munch.
The first problem, and I know this sounds ridiculous, but tantrums/rage. I didn't think that babies as young as mine could have them or experience rage, but I'm pretty certain this is what she is doing. Basically, over the past few weeks, there have been 5 instances of her going bananas. 4 of them because we went to someone's house and she apparently objected, and 1 tonight, when I tried putting her down to sleep. It's not her usual fussy/upset cry. It's a whole new level of beserk. I was downstairs with the monitor tonight, and her dummy had fallen out and I heard her start to cry intensely. By the time I had gone from the lounge and up the stairs, it had escalated in the space of a minute to almighty high pitched grating screams, and she was absolutely inconsolable for a good while. Ended up having to rock her to sleep (which is something we've never done and she has usually a very good bed time routine). The times she did it at my Mothers house and my Mother in laws house, she would basically, keep screaming and screaming until we left. My mother commented the last time that she could hear temper in her screaming, and look quite alarmed. They tend to come on without much warning either. We had been at my mothers the last time for about an hour, she fussed a little to start but wasnt too bad. She was laying on her playmat and seemed content, then literally, in a split second and without any buildup, was clenching her fists and screaming and going purple. Is this normal behaviour? Because I'm starting to feel upset about it, and seeing as she's done it every time we've gone to someone's house recently I'm too embarrassed to take her anywhere incase she does it again.
The second problem, is that since birth, she has been super duper alert and active/hyper. She absolutely, and categorically fights sleep during the day with every ounce of her being. She could be awake for ages, rubbing her face, yawning, red eyes. And every attempt at trying to get her to sleep is futile. I've even tried doing it after just being awake an hour so she doesnt get overtired, but that doesnt seem to work. And waiting until shes tired doesnt work because she seems to get overtired really easily. I feel like i've spent the first 16 weeks of her life spending all day trying to get her to nap, every day. And consequently, when she gets overtired she's a nightmare as she inevitably gets upset. I don't really know what I'm doing wrong but any advice would be welcome on the nap front.
The last thing, since about 10 weeks old, she discovered she could squeal, she only really cooed and made cute baby noises for 3 weeks or so and since she has discovered this squealing, basically, she does it every single minute of every day that she is awake. There are no other noises she makes other than screaming/squealing, and also this throaty kind of straining loud noise. Don't really know how to describe it but, I think I'm losing my mind. Now as I said in the above paragraph, she doesn't nap, hardly at all, so I have hour after hour of squealing at the top of her lungs until she goes to bed. I love her to death she's such a little cutie, but I'm ashamed to admit that I can't stand to be around her at the minute as the noise is deafening and unrelenting.
Basically, the above issues kind of make me think she's not quite right, as none of my friends babies have behaved like her and I don't really have anyone else to talk to about it. When I mention it to my husband he just kind of glazes over, and my mother just says cryptically something about my husbands ADHD and maybe it's something she's inherited but doesnt really go into too much to reassure me. Any advice would be most welcome as I seem to spend all day every day worrying about it and I'm starting to feel a bit lost.