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What are unacceptable behaviours in your home/family?

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YoureBeingASillyBilly · 07/01/2014 23:14

I have decided on the rules with help of dcs aged 8 and 4 but i am going to add a note with totally unnacceptable behaviours that have the severe consequence of wiping out the entire priviledges for the week.

So far i have
Violence (or threatening/attempting)
Bad language
Damaging property (or threatening/attempting)
Lying

Is there anything else i should add?

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YoureBeingASillyBilly · 08/01/2014 00:34

I know its late but bumping just incase anyone is around.

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tildamouse · 08/01/2014 00:44

Have your children previously shown these behaviours? You wouldn't want to give them ideas... Wink

SavoyCabbage · 08/01/2014 00:55

Yes, do it the other way round. List the positive behaviours.

Also it's a good idea to brainstorm with them. So when my dd2 was going to someone's house after school we thought of some rules together and now we use them all the time. But they thought of them they are

Be kind
Be helpful
Don't wreck the joint
Don't ask for anything except water.

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 08/01/2014 01:12

Yes the rules are all positive instructions like take good care of our belongings, speak politely and with good manners, keep our home tidy. But we have had problems with violence, lying, swearing and damage to property in the past (much better recently) and i am taking control of discipline properly rather than being reactive when those things happen. I have been doing a bad job and have finally caught myself on and see what i need to do to fix things. The rules are entirely positive but i feel i need to re- inforce just how 'bad' those behaviours are as previously i have been inconsistent with my reaction and consequences. I want there to be no uncertainty (for them or me) about what happens when you do one of those things. If that makes sense?

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YoureBeingASillyBilly · 08/01/2014 09:41

Bumping

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