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Aggghh. He's soooo competetive

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Notquitesotiredmum · 25/07/2006 17:11

Has anyone else got a ds who cannot play (or discovered anything that will keep them happy?!) He's driving me mad! I know that he is only six and hot and tired, but I am so fed up of inviting someone round for a playdate, only to have tears because he's the friend is cheating at football (ie he's losing!) Or because simply hitting a tennis ball to each other is boring, but then a game leads to stress! He and his friends just don't like playing imaginative games, nor construction things. (Playstation goes down well, of course, but I won't let them play for more than an hour and I don't want them stuck infront of the telly.) The only winner we have is a hotwheels style loop-the-loop construction which leaves everyone happy and having fun. They are on it now, but we need another game they can have fun with. Any ideas?

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melliamly · 04/08/2006 16:21

Hi
I have a ds who cannot play, he hates losing and is a bad winner aswell! He is very keen to take part in games but then becomes very anxious that he will not be able to achieve what he wants. This normally leads to crying, shouting etc. He is not so bad with friends from school (personally because I think that they accept that 'he sometimes gets cross' - which I think is very understanding of them!) I have spoken to someone on the web before who recommended karate and things like keeping a scrapbook - which I have implemented and which he loves. Sorry that doesn't help you with games for friends who come round!

stoppinattwo · 04/08/2006 20:38

Hi Notquitesotiredmum. have experienced this with DS. He is nearly 8 and went thru a terrible time with his competitive streak!!. He has a little sister who he alway has to beat. when it came to playing thins against people who may actually provide some sort of competition he wouldnt play or wouldnt try saying "im only going to lose anyway"

Just let him get on with it, he will have to learn to lose, Its like everything else, giving up dummies, potty training, you may have a few weeks of hell but it will be worth it.

The Imaginative games, won't he play with lego or play mobile stuff. Pack away all the electronic nannies and get out the paper, lego, dinosaurs etc etc. and ignore the pleas of Im bored.

DS does have a playstation, when i feel its getting a bit too much for him it goes away on holiday for a while.

I may seem a bit tough but its like everything else, in the long run you will be doing him a great favour (phew)

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