Ds1 has just turned 2.
He for the most part is well behaved (as much as a spirited toddler can be 
) but has a tendency to really play dh up with everything.
He adores dh & is quite the daddy's boy but his behaviour for him & me is like chalk & cheese & to a greater or lesser degree it's been like this for months. Dh has recently been made redundant so is at home & this is making the problem more noticeable & extreme.
An example is nap time. Ds wants dh to take him up for his nap but then won't settle. He's bouncing around, asking for things then doesn't want them, runs around the room & then starts to empty draws, throw things to dh etc. The last few days when he's started to do this I've gone in, dh has left the room to which ds has screamed for daddy but I've remained calm, told him firmly daddy has gone to do x, mummy's here & can cuddle him, read him a story & that he needs to calm down & have a sleep. I've then just quietly read the same story over & over he quickly calms down, relaxes & then either gets into bed himself or will let me tuck him in & goes to sleep.
At bedtime when dh was working I was on my own & ds1 would be put to bed in his room & was fine for me to be in the next room getting ds2 ready for bed & feeding & settling him & would go to sleep himself. If dh was at home then he wants dh in the room with him & screams & cries if he isn't. At dinner time ds1 will sit nicely in his chair & eat without too much fuss. When dh is here he wants cuddles from dh, wants to eat from dh's plate, sit on his knee etc. Ds can also get really upset if dh leaves the room to go to the loo, pop to the shop or go & sort the washing out.
Ds1 is an absolute delight in so many ways but we really don't know the best way to manage this behaviour. On the one hand we don't want to break his trust with dh but on the other it's getting ridiculous in some ways & we don't want to create a spoilet brat. Please help!