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13 month old won't be with her dad when I'm around

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NotSureImDoingThisRight · 21/12/2013 14:10

My DD seems to be in a pretty big 'mummy' phase, where she follows me around a lot and screams if I leave her sight. She does, however, go happily to her childminder 4 days per week and waves me off without a second thought.

Her dad has always been around, and sees her most days before we leave and is home most nights for her bath and bedtime routine. I think he has been fairly hands on generally, although I have cared for her more. At the moment she screams when he picks her up to cuddle her, and reaches out for me. If we are both there, and I walk out the room she screams till I get back. The other evening, I had to go back to work so he took over at 5, I went out they waved me off an apparently she was absolutely fine. It seems I need to be out the house for her to not scream for me, but obviously we all spend time together sometimes! I'm finding it really tiresome, and although my DP does not seem upset or say he is, I think he may be a little.

Is this a normal phase with their dads? I might understand it if she hardly ever saw him, or if I was a SAHM so with her all the time, but this isn't the case. He is a very gentle mannered person, not shouty or stressy so I don't think it's that. Will it pass soon?!

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HaveAFestiveLittleChristmas · 21/12/2013 15:59

Its a phase, They do get through, and it shouldn't last too long.

The fact that she is fine with him when you are not around should reassure him, and stop him feeling too badly.

And do tell him that, in a couple of years time, the tables will be turned and nobody will be able to fix things for her like her Daddy!!

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