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So sad for my DD....

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jaabaar · 20/12/2013 08:50

Hi

My DD is very sociable with people. She chats to adults and children alike. To shopkeepers, postman, doctors waiting room, any strangers etc. she is very confident in any situation.

Here is the strange thing: she seems to completely freeze with fear when it comes to group performance. For example to play a game with all children at birthday party.

At nursery Christmas party all kids were sat together to sing the Christmas songs they learned. She was so exited to learn and sing them and couldn't wait to go to party.

As they sat and started the singing she just froze! She kept staring into space with the most sad look I ever saw.

As party finished and we went home she was in floods of tears saying she wants to go back and sing!

She cried for nearly an hour!

When I asked her in a casual way why she didn't sing with other children she said she was shy.

I don't understand. In any other situation she has always been extremely confident! In this situations she freezes and like blanks out with fear.

How can I help her? All advise I read is for generally shy children which doesn't apply to her.

Thank you for any advise.

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lisad123everybodydancenow · 20/12/2013 08:54

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jaabaar · 20/12/2013 09:06

She is never shy in groups like at nursery or at church or any other gatherings and starts conversations within these settings.

Even at nursery when they all sat together and practised songs she is very happy.

She just was so devastated that she didn't have a second chance to sing that evening as we were walking home. Never seen her like that.

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JingleJohnsJulie · 20/12/2013 16:13

She's only little. Nif all of the parents were there I'd say it was completely normal.

dairymilk27 · 20/12/2013 16:47

I could have written this post for my DD1 (3yr) Very confident generally but won't take part in party games or group performances. Not sure I have any answers, I try to make sure she understands what is required her before the event, which sometimes helps sometimes doesn't!! Would be interested in other peoples experiences with slightly older children. I'm hoping she'll get better as she gets older. We just encourage her but never force her.

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