4 month old nowhere near sleeping through night

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Yes I know it may seem crazy to expect this but I need sleep!! On a good night DD has a dream feed at 10 or 11 then she wakes at 3.30 and then 6.45. However more frequently it's dream feed, 1.30, 3.30, 5.30 but at each of these feeds she won't feed properly and goes to sleep in minutes. This suggests to me that she doesn't really need it . I've tried calming her through rocking, cuddling, controlled ish crying but she only settles if I shove a boob in her mouth! I think I'm jumpy as I don't want her to wake her 2 year old brother so I rush in. I feel like I have noooooo control over nightimes at all . I'm not expecting a 7-7 although her brother was at this stage. I just want 1 dream feed and 1 more. Other information is that she's fairly little but putting on good weight (25th percentile) and she's breast fed.

Hiya no advice but saying hi because I am in the same boat with my 19 weeker. Horrendous isn't it, especially as all babies I know in RL seem to be doing so much better at this age. One thing I do do though is co-sleep from 4 am-ish onwards. By then I have no energy to resettle yet by cosleeping we doze off again together. My baby is the other side of the scale to yours, on the 85th centile.

As annoying as it is, it is perfectly normal. Some babies are just better sleepers than others

Can I just ask what it is that is stopping you getting enough sleep?

And do you make sure she has at least an attempt on both breasts each feed?

Her brother was unusual. One dream feed and one more would also be good going at this age.

I think, TBH, if this is your goal and it's not coming naturally, you will probably need to think about structuring your whole day to the type of schedule that maternity nurses, etc, use.

Another co-sleeper here. I've a nearly four month old. He won't settle until half nine-ish, wakes many times to feed, is restless from about 4.30am onwards.

It's exhausting. But it WILL change - my two year old now sleeps through every single night except when he's ill.

Ah the joy of the four month growth spurt :) it won't encourage you, but ds didn't sleep through until 15mo (bf til then) then he started waking again at 22mo don't ever put your child in a bed and still is at 2.4yo....yawn.

Have you heard of the 4 month sleep regression? I'm afraid it's perfectly normal for multiple wake ups and snacky feeding: kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/4mo-sleep/ i have a 16 week old and am into my 5th week of growth spurts/developmental leaps and crap nights sleep. I feel your pain!

sorry, link fail kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/4mo-sleep/

DS was just like this. He finally slept through (8-6) at 16 months and even now (4.8) often wakes in the night. He's an only child ;)

Welcome to parenthood lol

Seriously, you WILL survive this. Go with the flow dude.

No? Really? At 4 months old? You shock me.

Get this: my son didn't sleep through the night until he was nearly 3 years old.

Welcome to motherhood.

co-sleep
it's totally normal

Sorry. My son, who turns 2 next week, still wakes up at least twice during the night.

4 hourly feed routine, bath bottle/boob bed is what did with mine and they both slept 8 hours from 4 weeks and 6 weeks old. Or maybe your stuck with a non sleeper, shame they don't sell medised no more

In the same boat with six month old. Our 3.5 year old doesn't sleep through either.
I keep telling myself it won't last forever.

Just hope that you are not posting the same post in a year's time, like I was! 20 something months and still not reliably sleeping through. I don't even know how old she is, I am so tired!

What is worse is that she slept through at 4 months... Until she was 6 months when she turned into a horror! I went back to work when she was less than a year and I am now officially broken!

Sleep when she does and know that not sleeping through at 4 months is normal.

Good luck!

LoganMummy it won't last forever, it won't last forever, it won't last forever except it might!

Thermo - DD2 was still waking every couple of hours up to around 20 months, and was suddenly sleeping through about 2 months later. If that helps as a positive story. Sometimes it changes very suddenly.

How bad is the 3.5 year old?

I realise I seem mental . I think I'm just comparing her to her brother who was an amazing sleeper and still is . Now he's 2 he sleeps from 6.30pm-8am so I've got used to a lot of sleep. Mincedmuffpies can you expand a bit more on your routine e.g times through day . Smaths thanks for link.
Also I think it's a pain because it's so random every night which makes me think it's more about comfort rather than food . Yes she's only little so that's fine but I just wish I could get her to self soothe and not need a nipple !!

I did bottles at every 4 hours but you can bf on routine my dm did.

So dc would wake up at 6:30am for a bottle, then would be hungry again at 10:30, then 2:30 then at 6 I would sort out a bath and give another bottle at half 6 and put babies to bed. They would wake up for another bottle at 10:30 and then sleep till 6:30am skipping a feed. They grew out of the 10:30pm feed and I kept the bath milk bed routine for years, meant they would sleep anywhere as long as they had their bath.

My 13 month old still wakes up every hour to drink, sometimes more often. I co sleep so I don't have to wake up properly. And DH is in the spare bedroom as she disturbs him