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4 year old embarrassed to see me at school

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taytotayto · 18/12/2013 20:10

over Halloween I offered to help out at the school disco and took unpaid leave so I could get there early to set up and supervise at the disco. when my dd who is 4.5 saw me there,she was clearly embarrassed and said something along the lines of "mummy what are you doing here" and ignored me for the whole disco and wouldn't come near me or allow me to speak to her. I was upset but didn't mention it to her but told dh.
yesterday was her class nativity. I was so excited as was dh and again we took time off work to be there.
when we got there most of the children were waving and smiling to their parents. not our dd. she looked so cross, wouldn't sing and kept throwing evils our way. both dh and I were so hurt.
we are good parents, educated, we give her and her sister who is 2.5 a good life, we are fun, stimulate them but don't over spoil them and believe in discipline. I take them to nice places over the weekend and only work 3 days so I can be at home for them. I think we give them a good life but why then did she treat us like that. At home she is a real mummys girl.
am i just being over sensitive?
if she is like this now what chance will i have when she is 14!!!!!!

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lougle · 18/12/2013 20:19

Poor you! That must really hurt.

CheeseStrawWars · 18/12/2013 20:25

Has someone (one of her classmates?) said something to her at school about you? Even something like "Your mum's clothes are funny" might be at the root of it? In my (limited) experience, kids don't get self-conscious about things unless someone does something that makes them feel self-conscious about it first.

Lovepancakes · 18/12/2013 21:20

Could it be nothing at all but that she's not used to you being there in that setting? There's a lovely boy in DDs class who's 7 and so happy except when his (beautiful and very kind) mum comes to school when he really gets upset and unsettled. She literally struggles to watch school plays as he starts crying and I don't know why but it just unsettled him!

TheGreatHunt · 18/12/2013 21:25

She's only little - she won't quite understand why she feels like that. As someone has said, a friend has probably teased her about something. Ask her!

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