Lies, lies, lies.

[misdee]

dd1 is in the habit of telling porkies or in some cases very tall tales. example one, dd1 informed me she didnt get any lunch at school as she was in an extra class for her reading. The dinner lady spoke to me the following morning before i'd said anything, and asked if dd1 likes sausgaes. apparently dd1 didnt eat her lunch and just picked at it.

Told dd1 that she shouldnt lie as it gets her into trouble and other people as well.

But yesterday she drew on dd2. I knew it couldnt be dd2 or 3 that dide it as it was quite an intricate pattern that dd1 does, and well, it was on dd2 back so no way could she have reached, and it wasd in crayon and she had marked dd2 skin with the pressure she put on to do it. dd1 denied it, over and over, so i put her in time out. Ok, all dealt with, she admitted to doing it, crying and everything, said sorry for lying and said sorry to dd2.

So then i go to get the kids ready for bed. and on dd2 is the same pattern in crayon. i ask the girls who did it, dd2 says dd1 did it, (i already knew she did,) dd1 denies it again and again. so more time out and more tears.

I am utterly fed yupwith these lies. how do i deal with it?

anyone?

My dd1 (9) still lies although not as much as when she was younger. Ds1 does too - ridiculous lies - they must both think I'm completely stupid! I think it's something they just have to grow out of - or possibly be shamed out of if the situation arises.

My dd was an incorrigible (sp) liar when she was younger. The sort who would swear blind she hadn't eaten the chocolate biscuit when her face and hands were covered in chocolate
She's 15 now and I think she just grew out of it. Either that or she's got better at it and her lies are more believable
Sorry this isn't particularly helpful but I honestly found that there was much that I could do apart from keeping re-emphasising that lying wasn't acceptable and waiting for her to change.

that of course should read 'there wasn't much I could do'

Trust your instinct Misdee, You learn from certain body language when your DC's are lying

"Use the force Misdee"

You may be wrong now and again but nobodies perfect.
Got any good Boy who cried wolf stories you could tell her??

Lots of children do it - just search on here to see that - and most are around your dd1's age.

I think it is just a more subtle form of attention seeking so best just to ignore - turn a blind eye to

how old is she misdee???

I only ask as there is a 'classic' age when all children lie, just to see the reactions. doesn't mean that they will turn into incorrigable(sp?) liars when they are older, tis just a 'phase' if you like for want of a better word. They even do it when I is quite obvious that it was them. for instance, saying that they really havent eaten that chcolate even when it is smeared aroung their mouths.

If I am right the age is about from 4-6yrs, and then can reach a cresendo at 7 when it starts to tail off again. Just be consistant with her and she will come thro it.

My DS1 is 6 and we are right in the thick of it. I am now trying to get thro to him that if he tells the truth I won't be AS angry as I would be should he continue lying. It is working I am pleased to say, but has been a few months trial and error!

Don't forget either, that when there is stress in a family that they 'try it on' a little more to gain attention. Not saying this is the reason, but it may be something worth thinking about.

You have my sympathies tho.....really is infuriating when they stand there blatently lying when it is sooooooo obvious.