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Need advice - just found out ds1 bit another child at nursery......

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Mumbojumbo · 20/07/2006 12:00

.....am so upset with him. Quick advice needed on the best way of handling it with him. (So embarrassed as I started crying in front of his teacher as well }.
Any advice gratefully received.
TIA

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Whizzz · 20/07/2006 12:02

It's a phase. DS got bit several times whilst at nursery & I think he bit someone once.
Just tell him its wrong and it hurts & he wouldn't like it if someone bit him

mazzystar · 20/07/2006 12:05

how old is he?

its very common in little ones, fwiw ds has been both biter and bitee. (nursery gave him time out on sofa and explained biting was wrong) apparently it usually only happens once or twice, if it becomes frequent behaviour it sometimes indicates a communication difficulty but more often being over-excited.

try not to be too embarrassed, or hard on yourself or him.

CADS · 20/07/2006 12:07

Agree with the other posts.

DS has been bitten at nursery and I know every now and then he takes a nip at me or dd when he's overexcited.

hotmama · 20/07/2006 12:09

Don't cry - hold old is ds1?

It isn't out of the ordinary behaviour- how are the nursery dealing with it? My dd1 is 21 months and she has got bit but hasn't bit anyone herself.

Just to let you know that as a parent of a bit child I know it is just a phase - and not the parents fault.

I would let ds1 know that it is isn't nice to bite - even if in retaliation and not to do it (he may - but just persevere with the message)

Whatever you do don't bite him to show him how much it hurts as he will at the very least be getting mixed messages about biting - How come it is O.K.for mummy to bite etc?

It is actually a good thing that the nursery has told you but make sure you and the nursery are having the same action.

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Mumbojumbo · 20/07/2006 12:13

He's 4.5 years old and being very defiant about the whole thing.

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hotmama · 20/07/2006 12:17

mm-so he definitely knows it is wrong behaviour then? Do you think there is any reason for a change in behaviour?

Feistybird · 20/07/2006 12:19

My DD was bitten about 12 times at nursery by 2 diff kids. Both mothers came up to me and apologised profusely (they didn't have to, cos nursery don't tell you which kids are doing it).

It's really common. Nursery should have a method of dealing with it that they should discuss and agree with you.

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Mumbojumbo · 20/07/2006 12:27

Yes, nursery have dealt with it and he was given "time out" and admitted that he did it. I don't know who the other child was as they didn't tell me (understandably). Don't really know what's sparked it apart from it's hot etc etc although this isn't an excuse to go round biting people. AFAIK he's not done it before.
Were supposed to be going swimming this afternoon but think I may cancel it.
Thanks for all your messages - I really appreciate it.

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Mumbojumbo · 20/07/2006 12:27

Yes, nursery have dealt with it and he was given "time out" and admitted that he did it. I don't know who the other child was as they didn't tell me (understandably). Don't really know what's sparked it apart from it's hot etc etc although this isn't an excuse to go round biting people. AFAIK he's not done it before.
Were supposed to be going swimming this afternoon but think I may cancel it.
Thanks for all your messages - I really appreciate it.

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