So I found out from one of the mums at school that my DD1 was in BIG trouble a few weeks back...

[Feistybird]

She's in reception and she and her friend were caught smacking a YR1 child (girl).

To say I was shocked was an understatement - especially as DD1 was being verbally bullied by an older girl when she first started school (a matter that school cleared up pretty quickly I should add to the point where my daughter and this girl are now friends).

Anyway, this mum said the school decided not to involve parents because both girls apologised and showed real remorse.

Now, I would reallylike to find out more about it from my DD - I mean she doesn't even physically fight her sister (although they argue obv), so I'm wondering what was behind it.

Should I just let it go though?

How did this mother know then? How in particular was she aware of the stated reason for not involving the parents of the little girls? Is she the mum of the other little girl who allegedly smacked another child?
I think you need to find out more Feistybird, but it sounds as if it was an uncharacteristic one-off. Hope so.

and is it your little ones bullier the she was with in the incident?

Marina - the mum of my DD1's friend said she knew something was up just by the way her DD was behaving (no change noticed in my DD )- she was upset about going into school and so on and so the mum asked the teacher and teacher spilled the beans.

Beefy - I don't know if the girl they were picking on was the former bully (no excuse though, but slightly more understandable I suppose).

My DD had told me she'd been told off but claimed she couldn't remember why....hmmm.

I am sure the teacher would have said something to you if she was seriously concerned about the incident, FB
Even the most placid child can be provoked sometimes unfortunately.

Thanks Marina. DD1 is no angel (a chip off the old block there!) but she's never physical - just not in her nature.

Ah well.

children often 'act out' after bullying i,e, try it on another kid. often a one off & it exorcises the demons, particularly if they get caught. probably a one off. you can always ask the class teacher just to let you know if there are any other problems - just so you know what's going on.