Dd1 is well behaved at school, church, friends houses, but badly behaved at home.
She is tired as it's end of term and she doesn't sleep enough despite early bath and stories till 7.30 she sleeps 8-6.
She back chats, argues, does what she wants, ignores us, hits and pushes dd2, won't stay on naughty step just gets off and laughs, mimics us when we try and talk to her, rolls her eyes, and says she can't hear us.
Her sister now also hits back.
She is much worse when with her sister, all she wants to play is rough play which basically involves making up a game of chase/ pushing/ wrestling and then hurting dd2.
At the weekend she wouldn't stop bouncing on the furniture and ignored us telling her to get off, when we took her down she just laughed and got on again, when told to go to her room she said no and clung to her sister and she is getting too big to physically move.
I need to regain control and respect as I know it's getting worse.
I've tried reward charts, she gets bored and doesn't care.
She talks at full volume all he time, screeches regularly, kicks the table all through every meal, spils food and drink everywhere, cannot sit still, won't get ready in the morning just stands around doin nothing.
I feel like it's no fun anymore, all I do is tell her to stop or get on with what she's meant to be doing.
I read with her alone each night and she gets took to an activity and her dad takes her on bike rides at the weekend so she gets one to one attention and we do lots as a family walks, park, soft play, swimming.
Any advice would be welcome I'm at the end of my tether, I'm shouting, and feeling panicky how it's going.