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18mths -Enjoying it but hard work!!

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cheekymonk · 19/07/2006 19:31

Hi Folks, Hope everyone is ok. Just wondered if anyone had any tips/advice re my 18mth old.
Ds who is obviously bored at mealtimes and chucks food off his highchair with a real wilful glint in his eye.
I am finding him really hard work just now and feel like he is fighting me every step of the way. He suddenly wants to be picked up alot again but also wants to run off and do his own thing. I guess I am saying I am finding it hard to keep him under any kind of control!
I go to weight watchers and take him with me as there is noone else to look after him. they are lovely to him and I take food books etc but now he wants to look in the cupboards in the adjacent kitchen. An grumpy old cow came and shut the door on us today and it made me cry. i felt so silly but it really upset me as I feel bad for dragging little boy along and now so unwelcome as well. I am 18 odd stone so need to lose weight it is not a vanity thing but I feel like I am being selfish. My mum said she just accepted that it wasn't "her time" when I was small should I adopt the same attitude? How do you balance being a mum primarily but having some sense of self too?

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welshmum · 19/07/2006 19:36

Oh cheeky monk I do know how you feel and grumpy old cows really are the thing that tips me over the edge too. Of course you deserve some time for yourself and trying to lose weight so you can be healthier is indirectly good for your son too. Have you got a mate you could do some sort of swap with? You have hers one night a week and vice versa? If you can't then carry on taking him and ignore the old baggage.
I've got a ds too - a few months ounger than yours and they're a handful to be sure, but so sweet too - I can see how they get away with gleeful 'misbehaving'
Good luck with the weightwatchers

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cheekymonk · 19/07/2006 19:44

Thanks welshmum. Unfortunately haven't really got anyone that can have him. Haven't really made any friends bar one since having him, all other friends are childless. Husband is in navy and family are 3 hours away so bit stuck really! Am considering doing ww at home or something as like you say it will benefit son indirectly. I am partly doing it to give me the stamina to keep up with him!

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iPodthereforiPoor · 19/07/2006 20:18

you say you are a navy wife - where are you based if you don't mind saying? - i'm in plymouth with my own 18month old cupboard terrorist. If you were a Plymouth based Navy lady I'd love to chat (on here or real-life)!

welshmum · 19/07/2006 20:25

Parents and toddlers groups can be a godsend too cheekymonk. I'd get out there and see if you can find a few. Some are cliquey but when you find one that works it's such a help - they have fun and you get to make some new potential mates.

AllieBongo · 19/07/2006 20:27

how pleased was I when i moved house 3 weeks ago and discovered every kitchen cupboard had a lock on it.. no more eating stock cubes for my 17mth old dd! IMO this is the worst age, very in betweeny and lots of frustration for lo's. Distraction is the best thing!

Witchycat · 19/07/2006 20:41

Might be worth checking if your GP runs a Well Woman clinic or something like it. I managed to lose quite a bit of weight just going in & seeing the nurse to get weighed once a week/fortnight. (Put it all back now after 2 kids. It helped me because it was one to one so not intimidating & it only took about 10 minutes so it might be easier to take your little boy - also day time.

Other than that, is it just the one grumpy cow in the group? If so could you just keep going & ignore her? Sounds like you are doing a really positive thing in getting to the group & trying to lose weight. Don't let the silly moo put you off !

Witchycat · 19/07/2006 20:42

P.S. - Meant to say it wasn't just getting weighed, it was calorie counting but the nurse appointment gave me the motivation.

PPS - I have 18 month old dd. I know how you feel ! She is in stroppy mode at the moment.

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cheekymonk · 19/07/2006 20:56

Thanks for your advice. I am in Portsmouth ipodithereforipoor I'm afraid!
Knoqw what you mean about stock cubes alliebongo-even though we have locks ds has just got into eating them!
I did always find parent/toddler groups cliquey perhaps should try some more.
Yes witchycat it is just the one old moo everyone else seems to love ds!

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Witchycat · 19/07/2006 20:59

Keep going then & good luck with it !

riab · 19/07/2006 21:23

Definitly join some toddler groups. It takes a while and I found them a bit off putting at first but after 6 months its paying off (and I go irregularly).

it helps with DS (15 mths) boredom as well.

Do you have surestart in your area? or find out about womens centres. They often run free courses with childcare for women. My local womens centre has a free creche for any child - 1-2 hours. it gives you enough time to pop to the library/shops/coffee shop!

btw - thank you! I thought it was onyl my DS who ate stock cubes!

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