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Co sleeping

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Hunnybunn72 · 09/12/2013 20:16

I currently share a bed with my 10 month old but I'm planning to put her in her cot in the nursery from Christmas as I'm worried she will fall out about now she is getting more mobile. Am I doing the right thing? She'd sleeps so well in my bed.
Also what age do they come out of a cot and into what type of bed?

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gruber · 09/12/2013 20:20

We just got bed guards and big pillows, DS can't move the bed guards (nearly 11 months ) and the pillows are enough if a deterrent. Tbh we hear him on thr monitor if he does anything more than stir. If you're worried you could always check every 1/2 hour or so. DS sleeps SO much better in bed we haven't dared move him yet!

funnyvalentine · 09/12/2013 20:37

We co slept with DD in our bed, with bed guards, till she was about 14 months, then we put her straight into a single bed (with guards for another 6 months or so). Some people I know had the intermediate step of a mattress on the floor. My thinking was that by the time you've got your baby used to a bed, why put them in a cot and then have to get them used to a bed again a year later?

Obviously doesn't work for everyone though. We had fun when she realised she could get out of bed.

Jiltedjohnsjulie · 09/12/2013 20:38

I had mine in bed with us until they were both about 14 months at which point they both decided to play with mummy rather than sleep.

If co sleeping works for you, couldn't you just put a couple of big cushions on the floor if you are worried about her falling out?

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Hunnybunn72 · 09/12/2013 20:59

So I just ignore the negative comments from family and the health visitor and keep her with me ?

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NoComet · 09/12/2013 21:04

Family and HVs do not need to know.

catellington · 09/12/2013 21:06

Watching . Same age cosleeping dd,we are contemplating a super king size bed but not sure about when she starts crawling.

catellington · 09/12/2013 21:08

What type of bed guards?

Currently we attached an ikea cot to the side of the bed in lieu of a bed guard, she doesn't actually sleep in it much though.

msmiggins · 09/12/2013 21:08

There are no rights or wrongs here.
We coslept till our kids wanted to move to their own beds- around 3-4 years. Even then then it was a long gentle transition.
Moving to big beds was easy despite all the warings I was given, and the years that followed saw very easy relaxed bedtimes.
I haven't had a single tear at bedtime ever.
I believe in following your heart- do waht feels right. If everyone is getting a good night's sleep -then thet'a the important thing.
It's only here in the World and in recent times that humans haven't co-slept. All over the world people are living in small homes and sleep like a pile of puppies.
I have no regrets about co-sleeping - in fact I am very glad we chose to do that as a family, it has greatly enhanced the closeness we all share.

msmiggins · 09/12/2013 21:10

When our kids were toddlers we bought a superkingsize mattress for the whole family and put it directly on the floor, so there were no issues about falling out of bed.

Jiltedjohnsjulie · 09/12/2013 21:13

hunny yes I'd just ignore if you want to carry on. Why add stress to your life when you've found something that works. Just smile sweetly and say "it works for us" and don't get drawn.

Have you seen [http://askmoxie.org/blog/2009/03/a-reminder-about-sleep-regressions.html isis online]]? Its a good place to start if you are under pressure to change or are thinking of changing things [

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Hunnybunn72 · 09/12/2013 21:20

If your baby sleeps with you do you put her under the quilt with you or in a grow bag on top of the quilt ?

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Jiltedjohnsjulie · 09/12/2013 21:25

At that age I just used the quilt.

RawCoconutMacaroon · 09/12/2013 21:33

At that age, in a grow bag at the foot of the bed or between us (the bed has a footboard). When older, in a thick onsie sleep suit.

At 3 he's mostly in he own bed but still wanders through some nights.

Absolutely do not feel pressured into changing sleeping arrangements - unless you want to!

For us, co sleeping with DS4 until age 3 has been SO much easier and less stress than the nightmare of trying to get his older brothers to sleep alone before they were ready to do it. If its working for you, keep doing it!

funnyvalentine · 09/12/2013 21:42

I don't know why family and health visitors are so concerned about sleeping arrangements. It's hardly something that affects them, and at 10mo you're well past the early stage where there is the SIDS argument against co-sleeping (which actually I think is a long way from being proven, but still the evidence is mixed).

Obviously, if you want to move towards a cot/bed then go for it and there's loads of helpful advice out there. But IMO the most important thing is to do what works for you and your immediate family :)

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