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possible developmental problems: please can I have some help?

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muckymabel · 08/12/2013 11:17

Hi,

Ds is almost 12 months (my 4th baby) and has been referred to paeds for not meeting developmental milestones. Since he was a few weeks old I've had a gut feeling that he was different from my other children, but dismissed it after my husband disagreed.

As he got older it was gross motor skills that had alarm bells ringing initially; he can sit but cant crawl, pull to stand, sit from laying down and until 2 weeks ago could not roll. He can weight bear if held but does not attempt to step. I took him to see a physio and she has given me some exercises for his low muscle tone and referred him to a developmental consultant.

Now, describing the following is where I feel in my stomach that all is not right. He doesn't not babble. He does make some noises but they are rather monotone and don't vary. He certainly doesn't attempt to talk and its as though his vocalising is for his own amusement rather than to communicate. He is very, very placid. I always brushed it off as him being an 'easy baby' but looking back I think he has been too easy. He does not try to communicate with me by pointing, waving or imitation. He is smiley with familiar people but is deadpan to those unfamiliar to him and it is very difficult to make him laugh. However he has good eye contact and enjoys spending time with me.

I am not convinced either way if he understands me. If I ask him simple instructions (where's Daddy) he just smiles and has never once looked for someone when asked. I just don't know if he is fully aware of what is going on around him.

He can be very vacant at times and has a quirky habit of looking at things with his head tilted and he rolls his eyes upwards quite frequently too. He rocks back and forth quite frequently too. Don't know if this is something to worry about or if he does it for enjoyment (he smiles when he does it).

He enjoys playing with toys but only certain ones. He has different techniques for each toy and never seems to forget them.

Gosh, written down this seems an awful lot and is overwhelming. What I am basically asking is for some opinions/comparisons and what to expect when the consultant sees him in January if anyone has experience of this.

Sorry for the waffling.

Cheers.

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DoctorWhom · 08/12/2013 13:52

Can't offer you a comparison, however a likely consultation would take this typical path:
History:
What concerns you? For how long?
Detailed developmental history
Details of birth, medical and family histories
Top-to-tail examination.
Maybe suggest some bloods, physio, SALT though he's young for it still. Hearing and eyesight ok/checked?
Good luck

lljkk · 08/12/2013 18:36

He is still so young, I couldn't read much into that, most 1yos are quite quirky & some just have naturally low muscle tone. I hope that you get an appointment soon & some satisfaction from the professional assessment.

Hang in there.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 08/12/2013 18:55

My DD has low tone. She walked the day before her 2nd birthday. But she didnt weight bear until 20 months. So I don't think you should be too worried on that front.

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daytoday · 08/12/2013 19:57

Having your son assessed will really help.

I too had a weird gut feeling about my third child. She was passive/content. Sometimes quite blank. Didn't crawl/roll etc till 14 months. Didn't seem to 'communicate'. Had a poker face. Sometimes I would feel distraught inside.

However, she started crawling at 14.5 months and walking the week after. She started babbling a bit more as she got older. She didn't really start talking till 2.3years. But now she is speaking in full sentences. She plays, points, laughs. she blossomed slowly.

I have no concerns at all now. I think I had post natal anxiety and was terrified. However, I stayed in contact with health visitor who assessed her and reassured me at each stage. Apparently crawling is no longer considered a developmental milestone. That said, she did bear weight. In terms of her communication She had a hearing test quite young where they found out she had glue ear.

12 months is still very young.

Tapiocapearl · 09/12/2013 04:33

I agree its good to get things checked out but please don't concentrate on the worst case scenario. My friends DS didn't walk till 2 years. Everything physical was very delayed. He's now a very bright sporty 13 year old.

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