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Upset, ds found out about the birds and bees in a way I really wished he hadn't!

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MrsGerrard · 16/07/2006 19:46

Dd was at nanny's and came home with a book. The week before it was lungs and blood and tbh I didn't pay much attention to this one.

Yesterday I was out with dd and ds (8 and a half) was looking at book and dh noticed he looked worried. When he looked at the book it was about reproduction. Now ds knows how he was born etc but doesn't know how he was made.
Well the page ds was looking at there was a quite explicit picture (as much as it can be for a child's book) of a man with an erection laying next to a naked lady.
Anyway underneath was a detailed diagram of how they made love.
Ds looked horrified and dh well you can imagine felt the same. Ds asked dh "please don't say you had to do that to mum to make me". Dh obviously had to tell him that infact yes we did.
They left it at that.

Later on my mum was babysitting and he said to my mum "nan I really wanted loads of babies but not if I have to do that!".

What do I do now? Sit down and explain properly? I am annoyed that nanny didn't think before sending book home with my 6 yr old (who has sn and would be most freaked I can imagine).

I feel so sad tbh as I really wanted him to carry on thinking for as long as possible that the stork dropped the seed. I feel awful that he knows at such a young age.

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7up · 16/07/2006 19:49

the more fuss you make of it the more he will think its not normal. ive spoken openly about sex and babies to my ds since he was about 6, not full on stuff just answered questions he had

WideWebWitch · 16/07/2006 19:55

Explain properly, I would. Say that it's all about grown ups and love and he doesn't have to have children if he doesn't want to. The bigger fuss you make the bigger deal it'll be imo. Fwiw, my ds asked me when he was about 4 and I more or less told him the deal. I don't think he's actually thought v much about the precise detail but he knows roughly what the story is ("Ohhhhh, is it like when animals do mating?"). I wouldn't worry too much. But I don't think it's up to grandparents to decide when this stuff gets discussed so I would be peeved a bit aobut that I think.

WideWebWitch · 16/07/2006 19:56

good book imo

apronstrings · 16/07/2006 19:59

I think its fairly common for little boys to say urgghh thats disgusting nad i'm never doing that. I wouldn't worry too much - its the same thing as hiding their eyes when couples kiss on telly. I wouldn't be very pleased if someone else geve my child the book without talking to me first - I would probably tell Nanny you weren't quite ready for that!!! ask her to run things by you. I just wouldn't mention it to ds unless he does.

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