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How to build a child's confidence?

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ShoeWhore · 27/11/2013 14:36

My youngest ds is 6 and has a history of moderate-severe hearing loss (due to glue ear which is now resolving itself thank goodness) - his hearing loss is now mild and he wears a hearing aid and copes well.

As a result he had delayed speech when he started school. The school has done a fantastic job with him and he is making really good progress from what I can see although I think he's fairly bright and hasn't quite caught up with where he would have been without the hearing/speech issues.

He's very smiley and sociable and seems to make friends easily.

But his teacher says he's very quiet in class. I know from chatting to her that he doesn't always show them what he can do - e.g. they were doing shapes recently and I know at home he can easily name all sorts of more complicated 3d shapes, the more advanced 2d shapes etc. But he seems too shy to do this in school. Similar story with number bonds and recalling times tables etc. (loads more examples, in literacy as well)

His speech is still not always 100% clear and I think it knocks his confidence when people don't immediately understand him - I also think years of not always hearing everything that was going on have taken a toll.

He can also be a bit like this out of school with certain things - he has a new scooter and hasn't quite got the hang of it and is refusing to use it. He didn't walk until very late but when he did was running and jumping within a couple of days! So I suspect it is partly just his personality.

I just wondered if anyone had any ideas of what we could do to boost his confidence a bit more? He participates enthusiastically in loads of extra curricular stuff. I chat to him loads about what he's doing on the way to collect his siblings most days and we make plenty of time for reading and practising spellings. What else could we do?

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ShoeWhore · 27/11/2013 21:20

Can anyone help? (Have I posted this in the wrong place?)

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ThreeBeeOneGee · 27/11/2013 21:30

I have one with ASD and another who had developmental delay, so I sympathise. These are some of the things I am trying to do with all the children:

Encouraging them to try new things, go out of their comfort zone. Small steps at first (this has been harder with the one with ASD, but progress is being made). Beavers/Cubs is good for introducing them to new activities.

Finding something they can shine at. It doesn't have to be something expensive or time-consuming. DS3 has been doing origami for nearly a year now, and was able to use this skill to teach all the other children at youth club.

Giving them more independence. This has been more of a challenge for me, but is very effective.

Giving them more responsibility. This boosts a child's confidence hugely. Especially having responsibility for helping or caring for someone or something. I would consider getting him a pet if you think you can stand it.

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