DS's father moving to the US he is really distraught don 't know how to help him

[Kellyl26]

My DS is 10. His father is moving to America with new wife & baby this week. My DS is really upset. He has cried about it several times & after the last time he saw him before he's leaving didn't want to get out of bed & go to school, it turned into a huge drama.
I am able to talk to him about it rationally at times, tonight he has told me he is struggling to see the good in it as it is such a loss for him.
He is bound to have all sorts of feelings about it like rejection, sadness & anger. I don't want him to internalise it & feel bad about himself.
Any advice on how to help your kids through a difficult time?

This sounds so tragic but so encouraging you're talking to him. I don't think anything could take all the hurt away but just knowing you really understand and empathise will make such a huge difference so I would just carry on as you are. Though am totally unqualified to give any advice, that's just my reaction as sounds so sad for him.
Also does his father acknowledge how he feels and can he do anything to reassure him he's still loved as much eg to explain he has to go for (good reason) but that he finds it hard and his heart is still with DS etc ?

Also I would do special things together you and him that your DS really enjoys- any good quality time together maybe outdoors and that's really fun/ exercise just to be alongside him more than ever and in a lovely way.

Hi looseleaf, thanks. His Dad & I don't talk much very basic communication but he has been calling & skyping him a lot, I hope it continues when he gets to the US wednesday. DS tells me he said he probably wouldn't have gone if it was his decision.
The outdoors stuff is a really good idea I find DS opens up more if we are doing an activity rather than sitting down 'to talk'!
Thank you for this I felt at a loss as to how to help him x