nearly 3 year old driving us mad!

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My DD who will be 3 in January is driving us up the wall, all we seem to have is constant whining, screaming, tantrums she just seems so unhappy!
I must admit I am starting to dread each day as it is just constant, she goes to nursery 2 mornings a week and is great there! We are always out seeing people/doing nice things.
I'd this just a phase? Would really appreciate and tips/advise.

We're having a fair bit of that at the moment. Lots of dissolving into tears over being told off, lots of doing things she's been told not to do, lots of tantrums (screaming, stamping feet, laying on floor). I have noticed it is far worse when she's tired so we do try to make sure she gets an afternoon nap.
I try my best to ignore the worst. Best thing I've found to do when the going gets rough is just to leave the room for a minute.

Weather's been so bad of late it's been difficult to find outdoor things to do, but a good walk in the fresh air can be helpful at tiring out.

My main problem at the moment is dealing with the constant barrage of questions, almost always "Why?" to whatever I suggest!

It is so hard isn't it? Our main problem is the whining over nothing!! It just seems to be constant, let's hope it passes,... Very soon!!! X

I've worked with age group and they are tricky little humans! They want autonomy of sorts, so crying, complaining etc. gets them the control & attention they need. Try two things:

1. give LOTS of positive praise when DD is doing something good. This could be a simple thing like helping to put toys away or helping mummy.
2. follow the super nanny style parenting. Have strong boundaries, so she feels safe AND she knows you are in control. IGNORE all bad behaviour. Walk away, making sure she is safe & won't hurt herself. Try counting to 3 / naughty step ( if u agree with this thinking).

My DD (now 12yrs!), told me aged 3 that she was "the mummy"! I spent over an hour doing naughty step, leaving her in the hallway whilst she stamped feet, hit walls and screamed "I am the mummy". I took myself away a few mins at a time and cried. Eventually I "won", I had to push her forcefully onto the step and hold her there, whilst I told her in a deep & non mummy voice, that I am the mummy, not her. Finally she cracked, cried and we both hugged. It was horrible. But I never ever had that problem again.

Don't wimp out and try to enjoy this age, it can be wonderful. Books by Stephen Biddolph are excellent & add humour to to whole messy phase of patenting.

Good luck

I'm in the same boat with our nearly 3 year old (feb). I had a hurendous day on saturday whining was constant. I don't really have any advice just saying you are not alone!