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Too old for tantrums ? Don't know how to handle her !

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Norah · 13/07/2006 09:41

My dd is a really sweet child - but at home she is so confrontational that I really don't know what to do with her ! At school and for anyone else she is apparently an angel !

She will go into a strop/tantrum/rage about the tiniest thing and they last ages and are extremely loud and to be honest I am on the verge of not coping !

This morning for example she laid out her clothes on my bed and I said "Oh don't put them there - there's loads of cat hair just there!" - cue for an enormous screaming fit - she comes out withe the most horrible things "I hate you" "I don't love you anymore" "I don't want you to be my mummy anymore" and this morning "I wish I'd never been born at all !"

Isolated incidents I coupld cope with - but this is at least twice a day now - and I just don't know how to stop it !

We've been doing 1-2-3- Magic and a pasta jar - but she refuses to go to her room, refuses to stay in it if we "escort her" and just generally argues and yells about anything she doesn't agree with.

She's 6 in October - and still every day of her life she has cried about something !

When will it stop ?

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Norah · 01/08/2006 19:24

Had to resurrect this thread as I have had one hell of a time with her since !!

Went on holiday - she had at least one tantrum every day ! The whole holiday was designed around her - we stayed at a place with an indoor pool so she could swim every day, and she did, but she was an absolute nightmare ! She had tantrums about having sticky fingers after an ice-cream, the ice-cream being too cold another day, the sea was too cold, the sand was too sandy, she didn't want to go that cafe, she didn't want to go to bed, she didn't want to get dressed - and so on !

dh put her on a tick-chart (no stars with us !) and she had to get so many ticks otherwise she would lose her trampoline, and if very bad her new bed too. If she got lots of ticks she would get a present ! By being very lenient - she JUST managed to keep trampoline and bed - but earned no present - so she had a tantrum about that being unfair !

Yesterday I went back to work and she was very excited to be going to my work playscheme - which she adores !

However - both today and yesterday she has had major tantrums in the morning as she doesn't like any of her clothes and didn't want to wear them ! Yesterday she went to playscheme in a party dress and strsppy sandals - then moaned when we got there that everyone else was in shorts ! When I picked her up yesterday she kicked off because she wanted to come to my office to do some drawing before we went home - so she screamed for 20 mins in the car ! So today I collected her early and took her to my office where she proceeded to have a tantrum because I said she couldn't go off to the toilet on her own (through several heavy doors and need pass to open !) - she then pulled a wire out of the back of my PC and threw pencils at me ! At this point I packed my bag and marched her out to the car ! I was so angry with her - I didn't speak to her all the way home (45 mins) and STILL she doesn't think she's done anything wrong !!!

I really CANNOT do this anymore !!

Someone tell me what I can do !!! PLEASE ???

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