Behaviour consultant needed for 8yo DD

[Loobyfly]

DD is nearly 9 and eldest of my three children. Her behaviour has been extremely challenging ever since she could talk. Mostly severe anger and rudeness, non-compliance, screaming at us and her siblings. She is highly intelligent but I don't feel this should be an excuse for bad behaviour. We have asked for help from many different sources but nothing has worked for very long. Feel quite desperate now as her behaviour is affecting her younger siblings. Can anyone recommend a behaviour consultant / supernanny type / parenting expert who could work with us on a one to one basis? We are based in Hampshire. Thank you.

I would start by going through school tbh. How is her behaviour there?
It may be that she has an underlying issue which a super nanny approach may mask but ultimately make her more frustrated.

Go to your GP and ask for a refereal to CAHMS

If your other children behave OK, it's unlikely to be your parenting which is the issue.

Her behaviour at school is really good and teacher was shocked when I mentioned the problems at home! At infant school she saw a special needs teacher for anger management sessions. I should probably ask the junior school if they could offer something similar.

When I last asked GP (about 4 years ago) we were referred to a child psychiatrist. We got one session. The lady said DD had exceptionally high mental intellect and her emotional intellect needed to catch up with it. I would rather have a well-behaved child than a genius one though, to be honest. I'm sure there are lots of clever children out there who still manage to be polite and non-aggressive. I could ask GP for another referral though.

It doesn't matter about other children...what matters is your DD and her needs. I think I had to go back to the GP and be referred about 4 times, before DS finally got the help he needed.