Son Worries.

[Postmantwat]

I worry that my son needs too much approval and really worried that its my fault.

If I tell him off he will keep trying to make sure he's all ok with me and I've noticed this in play groups, if a child (usually a baby) shouts at him, he will run to me crying and then at some point will go back to that child to see if he can win them over. He talks of the children in school not liking him, he says none of the children like him which I know is untrue, they all like him, he's quite popular ..gah.. This parenting lark SUCKS.

What can I do to encourage him to be ok with people not liking him, if that's the case? I'm so worried about him...maybe I've made him too soft by loving him too much? I just want to cry, hide indoors with him and never allow the world to get at him again.

Firstly I don't think this is because you love him too much, if that was a crime there'd be lots of us in jail

Have you spoken to his teacher? What does she say?

I've got no solutions sorry but my bf's DS is very much like this. Constantly after reassurance, takes any comment really personally and constantly checks people's faces and tries to work out what they are thinking. For instance up I had him for a day recently and at one point he went really quiet but wouldn't tell me whist was up. Eventually got him to open up and he said that he'd looked at my face and he thought I was very upset with him. Explained that I was happy but just trying to work out what to cook for tea and was in no way upset with him or anyone else, I'm just unlucky that my face looks like this .

Shall read the thread with interest

That sounds like my son!

His teachers adore him and he gets on really well in the class. They rely on him for the morning sing song to lead!

Gave you spoken to his teacher about him seeking reassurance? Its good that he is well like and confident enough to start the singing

Have not gave. Damn ipad.

I often wonder if I've encouraged his behaviour, if I tell him off I always check he's ok afterwards. I've never questioned myself as I have as a parent. He's so confident usually, in every other way.