Potty training and nursery school - what has gone wrong? [sad]

[lisalisa]

I always leave potty/toilet training till quite late and dd4 was almost 3 when we began. I bought two potties one for upstairs and one for down ( as she did not seem keen to sit on the toilet) and she took to it like a duck to water. She was so proud to wear knickers and be able to go on the potty and not wear a nappy. Since we started six weeks ago she had not had one accident. She was even dry at nights even though we put her in pull ups at night.

Dd goes to nursery school 5 days per week from 9-3. She loves her nursery school and often asks to go on weekends. She is relaxed and happy with the staff and other kids and is settled and seems to get on with everyone.

The first few weeks went so well and the staff were amazed that she did not have one accident at all. She used her potty in nursery for the first week after which she used the nursery toilets. They have small seats so she felt confident with that.

Suddenly this week after 6 dry weeks the nursery told me she had 3 accidents in one day . I instandly thought urine infection as she has had one in the past. However she didn't have a tummy ache or temperature or any other signs and used her potty fine at home onher own suggesting it wasn't a sudden control issue.

I thought it must be an off day and she went happily to nursery the day after. That day she had two accidents and has continued to have two accidents for the last few days.

I just cannot understand it - it makes no sense. The nursery say they gently prompt her at times to go and dd herself says she is happy at nursery and no-one is upsetting or hurting her. I have even tried to have the dreaded conversation with her that no-one is touching her private parts or come in to the toilet with her and upstet her . All "nos" to everything.

Any ideas anyone please? By the way I don't care about the wsetting itself. I just want dd to be ok and happy and to understand what the reason for this is .At home by the way she continues to be fine and use her potty fine too

Is it simply that she is very engaged with nursery and forgets? There seems to be nothing else wrong so I think she just gets into the swing of nursery and she has not been dry for that long. Maybe the staff could take her to the toilet at a set time of day and sometime after she has had a drink? This would remind her in a positive way so that she does not leave it too late. I used to remind my children if they were engrossed in something. I would not worry because I doubt that this will continue for long.

thanks littlesiouxiesue = I'll try that

Hi, yes it sounds like she is just so engrossed in what she is doing. Great idea to ask nursery to take her at certain times. Good luck!

Both my DC went through a regression at a similar point after potty training. DS's lasted 6 weeks and DD's was a few days. I just rode it out and for both, they just stopped having accidents again as if the regression hadn't happened

I expect the novelty has worn off a bit and she's just got a bit lazy when busy doing something else. Maybe you could offer a little treat at nursery pick-up if she has kept her knickers dry that day?

Agree with other posters that although this is frustrating it doesn't sound like anything to worry about. Regression after a few weeks is really normal. I'm sure she'll figure it out soon.

This happened with my DD and only at nursery. A sticker chart worked in the nursery and I dressed her in clothes she REALLY loved which seemed to prevent her from peeing in them. Also, when I drop her off in the morning, we go to choose a peg and in the cloakroom, we have a hug and a kiss and I say ' what do you do when you need a wee or poo?' She says go to the toilet! I say YAYYY! And she goes off for breakfast. Seems to work.

Thank you everyone - quite by chance we solved the mystery! Yesterfday whilst waiting to go in to nursery dd said she needed to use the toilet so I knocked on the nursery door and asked to go in with dd to use the toilet . We went in and dd sat quite happily and began to start her wee. After a v short time she stood up and started to pull up her knickers but suddnely more urine came flooding out all over her clothes. It seems dd was just getting up too quickly - probably too eager to start playing and what the staff hadn't told me was that the accidents didn't take place out in the play areas but always in the toilet . They later corroborated this so thankfully this is all it wsa. The staff agreed to prompt her a bit to sit longer nad make sure she was finished and that was all it took. She was dry all day yesterday after that accidxent and dry today.