DD's social skills

[ViviDeBeauvoir]

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DD is 4, eldest of three DC and started in reception this year. Just had her parents' evening and it went mostly as I expected. She's independent, enthusiastic, loves learning, is learning quickly and happy to work in groups or independently. Chatty, but not overbearing/in your face, has adjusted to school well.
All great and I'm really proud.
The thing I'm worried about is that her teacher has said she doesn't look to socialise with the other children at break time etc. she never instigates playing with them. There's no problem with her imagination etc. she just doesn't seem interested in playing.
She's usually very sociable when we're out and about, chatting to people and always seems interested in making friends when I'm there but school have said she isn't, although she doesn't seem bothered by it. She's happy.
They've said they'll keep an eye on it, which has me a little bit worried.
I've agreed to try and foster friendships with the children she likes by having them over for tea etc.

Has anyone else had a child like this? What did you do? Are they happy?

Anyone? :-(

My Dd is exactly like this. She's bright and sociable but doesn't seem to bother with the kids at break/playtime at school.
She is happy to engage with other children in tasks and will play with children in say home corner for example but outside she just likes to run round and play alone.
4 is very young to encourage friendships too much. I'm not concerned about Dd she will just make friends when she is ready.

Op my dd who is 4 and has just begun reception I suspect is also like this... Though no parents evening yet so nothing's been flagged up. I wonder with mine whether its a lack of confidence in approaching others.. My dd is similar to yours in the other ways you mention also - bright and sociable. She is also shy so I wonder if this is it.

Maybe we should be happy they are independent

Thanks for your replies - it's reassuring that your DDs are like this too.

It seems worlds apart from what she's like when I'm with her as she chats to anyone and everyone! Her teacher did mention that it could be shyness and I know sometimes she does say she's feeling shy.
She's been independent since she could sit up - always happy to amuse herself, which is a great thing but on the other hand I can see that she would like a friend to run around with etc. I guess I'm feeling guilty because we moved here a year ago and don't know too many people as I was working and then had DC3 so building friendships is tough. I think I'll keep an eye but not try and force anything. :)

My very bright 9 year old was similar OP....she's absolutely fine. Very sensitive and like me, rather self contained....she's very happy with her own company and has a lively internal life....BUT she has over the last two years grown to be far more sociable and has a best friend now....as well as other girls who she's close to. playdates can do a lot towards fostering relationships in my experience...having the experience of someone elses home gives them a bond in school....invite one every few weeks but don't go too overboard as it's overwhelming too!

She sounds fine....they've all got their little oddities and as you say, she's bright and happy....