10mnth old sleeping in our bed - how to get in her cot?

[MrsJSC]

Stumped!
Our 10mnth old has been sleeping in with us since birth. She is our 3rd child, we never did this with 1 or 2.
We also run our own business so all need sleep!
She is still bf and her cot is in her 5yr old sisters room. We have no room in our room to but a cot next to our bed. She can crawl and furniture walk. She does not have a dummy (none of my babies ever have).
We have tried controlled crying but after she eventually falls asleep she wakes not much long after. We can't do controlled crying during the night as it wakes our 5 & 3 yr old.
She won't sleep in her cot during the day either. She just stands up and cries.
At the moment she sleeps in the sofa next to us until we go to bed and then she comes in with us.
I know we have created a rod for our own back but we had to sleep!!
Any suggestions would be greatly received.

Hi MrsJSC. She sounds like she's not ready to move into her own bed yet. The fact that she's on the verge of walking doesn't help because this often leads to a period of separation anxiety.

I can understand that you all need some sleep but is there an alternative for the moment? A mattress on the floor beside your bed? DH sleeping in another room for a few weeks? This might take the time pressure off so you can introduce her to daytime naps etc in her own room more slowly. She's probably resisting if she feels she's being pushed into it.

Don't feel like you've made a rod for your back. It's such a short period of time and it'll pay huge dividends for many years to come. Good luck.

We've just managed to get 8 month old DS mostly into his own cot (trying to get him into his own room now, have another thread about it!)

Tougher methods just didn't work as he was frankly more hardcore than we were and 2 hours of crying for 10 minutes of sleep did not seem right. Instead we went with the No Cry Sleep Solution after lots of recommendations on here, it's not a magic bullet and it is slow, but it does seem to work well and it is gentle and manageable. Good luck with whatever route you take!

Thank you for your wise words. All makes sense. She is very anxious at the moment. She gets worried when I leave the room.
Maybe I will wait until she is a bit older