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DS suddenly wetting himself all the time, since starting school

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aufaniae · 06/11/2013 10:38

DS has been out of nappies in the daytime for ages (a year maybe?). I was still carrying spare trousers with me just in case, as he was still having the odd accident, maybe once every couple of weeks.

He's just started in reception, and the first couple of weeks, he came home with wet trousers. He'd obviously weed himself ages before and just been sitting in them.

I spoke to his teacher, to let her know this was happening, and to try to encourage DS to tell grown ups when it had happened. She was lovely to him, and showed him all their spare clothes, should he need them.

But since then it's got worse, he's now weeing himself all the time, not just in school, but at home too. He just doesn't take himself to the toilet anymore.

Yesterday for example he wet himself on the way home, again at home, and again later when we were at fireworks.

When I ask him why it's happening he says he can't feel when he needs to wee anymore, but I'm not sure I believe this as he still does the jiggle, you know, the little dance they do when you just know a child needs the loo! But if I ask him if he needs the toilet when he's doing the dance, he's adamant he doesn't. And then wets himself.

He's also started lying about it. If I ask him if he's wet himself, he'll deny it, even when he's standing there with a big wet patch and I've made it clear I can see it, he won't admit it.

He's very happy at school, he says he likes the toilets there. He's not in trouble for doing it. I've been very kind and understanding about the weeing, and have been trying to get him to help find a solution to it, but that approach is not working as he just keeps lying about it.

Sorry that was so long! But I'd really appreciate any advice.

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Squiffie · 06/11/2013 17:31

It's quite common for children to regress in toileting when there are major changes in their lives and starting full time
school is a major change!

Maybe go right back to basics?! Use a reward chart with stickers and small rewards for each milestone.

I'd also take him to the toilet when you know he needs to go regardless of whether he says he wants it or not!

aufaniae · 06/11/2013 22:33

Squiffie thanks for the reply :)

We've had progress of sorts. He wet himself right at hometime, and his teacher (who is truly lovely) saw. After getting him some dry clothes, she stayed behind with us for about half an hour, and talked so kindly and sensitively with DS about it. He's come home with a sticker chart which we and the school will collaborate on, he's to do a "try wee" at several specific times of the day.

I'm hoping this will work. If not, I'll take him to the doctor's.

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Squiffie · 07/11/2013 17:18

Glad you've got a focus! Hope it works for you and ds responds well :)

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