My son is over jealous when I speak to other grown ups or children.help please.is this normal?

[kathryn2013]

My son is 6 years old.he has always been a bit different with delayed speech.he speaks fine now.but my biggest problem is the embarrassment he causes me anytime I talk to anybody while walking him to school.he starts winging and winging and becomes rude with everybody.he is also gets overprotective over his little brother if anybody tries to talk to him. is this a normal behaviour for a 6 year old?

He sounds very insecure. Is he worried/frightened about something? Does he need extra reassurance that he's safe and loved?

Maybe before you talk to someone tell him what you're going to be doing. "I'm going to talk to Pauline for a little while, I'll tell her how well you did with your art" Then keep it really short and positive and then praise him afterwards. Worth a try?

I'm no expert but if he had delayed speech is he now comfortable himself talking to others? Perhaps he is fearful he might be expected to interact and so this whining behaviour is to avoid being pulled into a conversation with someone he's not 100% comfortable with.
Perhaps when he did struggle with his speech people didn't react in a positive way and this now makes him want to avoid?

Anyhow, as a solution I'd use the good mum friends and explain to them the situation. Ask them to walk to school with you and ds and give them the heads up on the behaviour that will no doubt come. Before meeting to walk let ds know you're going to be walking and talking with abc and that you enjoy getting to know and speaking with other people. Ask the other mum to just talk with you and remain positive. Ignore the whining but if ds shows any sign of positive interaction then really pay attention to it. You will probably have to repeat this lots but could also try having friends over at home and trying to involve ds.

Good luck

This may not be it, but my db had very poor speech until after he started school, and I can remember dm getting frustrated when he was about 10yo (when his speech was normal) because he would come up when she was talking and expect her to promptly stop everything to listen to what he had to say.

When she thought about it, it was learnt behaviour. Because when his speech was bad, he didn't want to try and speak. If he did speak, his pronunciation was so bad it took total concentration and silence around to understand. And because he didn't want to speak, dm treated anything he said as very important and praised him...

Of course this then gave him the impression that everyone should stop what they were doing to listen to him because what he said was always so important...

While the speech issues were there, it didn't matter that he thought this. When they'd gone, he would be dramatically overhurt if we didn't hang on every word, and he particularly hated it if dm was talking and wanted to finish her conversation before listening to him.