speech in 3.5 yr old- dilemma

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My 3.5 yr old has trouble with pronouncing some sounds, and jumbled words together without taking a breath consequently she is quite hard to understand.
6 months ago preschool recommended we get her on the salt waiting list, which we did. We also had a private assessment, where we found dd has large adenoids and tonsils. (Which makes sense as dd wakes several times a night asking for water, snores dreadfully, has a deep voice and is very nasal) the speech therapist recommended removal and no further sessions until this had been done as our dd wasn't going to progress otherwise.

In the meantime we moved up the waiting list and had a nhs assessment, where they said the same and said it was the worst case they'd seen in 25yrs.

So eventually yesterday we see the ent consultant, who basically scorned at me and said dd was a fit and healthy three yr old and he has seen worse. He won't operate, and wouldn't give an answer to her speech being affected or the snoring, deep voice getting any better.

So what do we do now? It is a five month wait until the next nhs speech group. Do we go private, even though she might not progress anyway? Do we wait the five months for nhs? Do we enquire about the adenoids/tonsil removal by going private or shall I ask for a second opinion through the nhs?

I would ask for a second opinion.
Also contact the salt and ask them to refer or at least do a letter stating g their reasons for thinking it's Necessary

Thanks bundaberg, I did have a letter from the private speech therapist but he wasn't interested

It's quite a lot of money - around £100 I think, but make an appointment to see Michelle Wyatt as a private patient - she is head of ENT at great ormond st but you can see her privately. She is lovely, and if there is an issue you then have a letter from an expert to go back to the nhs with - my son has a really bad speech delay and Michelle was the only person to realise the reason why was because he has really bad glue ear so couldn't hear the words to pronounce them - was a lot of money but worth it as then could access help from nhs

I saw an ENT surgeon privately for DS1 as well-his tonsils and adenoids were enormous and his speech was very delayed. NHS said that he'd grow out of it and speech would catch up by the time he was 7...you can imagine what I thought about that.

He had them taken out 3 weeks later and within a month had caught up with his speech...was sleeping better and was a different child. He was nearly 3 when he had them out.

Incidentally DS2 has other ENT issues and we actually see the same Consultant but on the NHS...we requested him cause he works at same hospital. He also had his tonsils/adenoids out but at 21 months.

iheartttc- it's so frustrating isn't it. Why do they think it's acceptable to wait and see? My ds is in reception and with all the phonic and reading work my dd is really going to struggle if her speech isn't right.
Can I ask how long it took from making the appointment privately to having them out?