Crying 6mo & Stroppy 5 year old

[Rico08]

Sorry if this sounds like I'm whinging but I don't know what to do next.....

My 6mo DD pretty much cries all day, sometimes a whiny cry, most of the time a full on scream cry. This has really developed in the last 2 weeks.
She has reflux but this seemed to be under control with Enfamil milk. No sign of teeth & teething gel does not seem to help. Doesn't seem to be tummy ache & no raised temp. She is only happy held up on my shoulder walking round, if I sit down with her on my shoulder she cries.

She sleeps well at night but hardly sleeps during the day. We play with her but it only lasts a short time before she's off again.

She only seems to settle for DH which is so frustrating

Then there's the 5yo DS, he has started having stroppy moments, crying over the least little thing. We include him in everything to do with DD & he loves her so much. He has always been so good so this change is a bit of a shock. We try and spend time just with him too.

Moan over thank you for reading

It sounds like the 2 behaviours are related, his sister is demandng so much attention that he's resorted to attention seeking for reassurance.

We try and spend time just with him too.

How successful have you been?

Sorry to hear you are having a bad time! May be your dd is going through the clingy stage? I've got a 6 month old too but she's not got to that yet, only when she feels off it! Have you started your lo on solids yet? Is it something she has eaten? If not, maybe she's hungry and needs a little more milk? Just trying to throw some ideas into the bag. I hope you have a better day!

Thank you both.

Andro, we spend time reading/playing with DS after school. At tea time we sit down together and talk about his day. I thought he might be jealous so have made a real effort to get him involved.

Bayliss1, I've started to wean DD & the reflux seems to have improved, she's not as sick. She has 4 x 210ml bottles each day and she has started wanting an extra bottle around 8:30pm, although she doesn't always drink it all.

Just been wondering if certain foods irritate her reflux even though she's not as sick. She had pear & apple yesterday and seem less settled the when she had veggies.

Rico08 - it's not uncommon for behaviour regression in an older child to hit a few months after a sibling arrives, usually when they realize that the new addition is here to stay. What you may be dealing with is anxiety rather than jealousy.

One other thought, with a 4 and half - 5 year age gap it's easy to lose sight of the older child still being small because they look so big and so much older compared to the baby/younger child. Inadvertently expecting too much can be a problem (my 2 are 4 years apart and at 6 and 10 I still have to check myself occasionally) and some mum and son/dad and son uninterrupted snuggles may well give him any reassurance he craves (bedtime stories and snuggles are great for this and for digging out what he's really feeling).