My DS is just turned 3 years old and his keyworker spoke to me about his behaviour today. She said he doesn't listen, needs to be told several times to do something and also has been pushing the other children.
He has been at the nursery since he was 1 and he goes 4 days a week (not ideal but there you go). He's there from about 8.30am to 5pm each day. He's been really happy there and up until now they have only had good things to say about him. He had a really strong bond with his keyworker in the toddler room and only moved up to the pre-school room 2 months ago.
I feel really terrible because I don't want him to be the naughty boy and I am worried it will affect how well he bonds with the staff in the preschool room. I used to feel he was loved so much at nursery and while the preschool staff are all lovely I don't get the same vibe from them at the moment.
I also think we are maybe to blame. We try not to give into him at home but he is difficult if I'm honest (though no more so over the last couple of months). We use a lot of strategies to get him to do stuff and quite often will just wait him out which I guess they can't do there. I also think some of it (like the pushing) might be about attention.
I can't work out if I am being PFB and he is worse than I think or if he is just a reasonably normal 3 year old. Does anyone have any suggestions? Common battle grounds for us at home are going to the loo, brushing teeth, washing hands, sitting at the table, going to bed. We quite often use ultimatums (which we normally follow through) or sometimes trickery (saying we are going to the toilet first which makes him want to go). When we are with other children outside nursery he is normally very gentle but he can hit and bite us a bit when he is very tired.
Sorry for the long post - any help appreciated!