Has anybody else got a DD/DS how makes them self sick when they don't get they're own way?

[Marne]

DD1 (2.4) won't go too sleep unless i sit with her, if i leave the room she makes herself sick and then has what seems to be a panic attack.
Does anybody else have this problem or is it just me?

Im getting fed up of cleaning up sick and calming dd1 down, i just wan't her to go to sleep by herself.

She also makes her self sick sometimes if she does'nt get her way during the day.

How about getting her to help you clean up? Then when you're all shipshape put her back in the cot and say calmly I hope we don't have to do that again. Maybe later when she asks you to play with her, say sorry you can't because you're busy cleaning her sheets.

There needs to be consequences for her that she doesn't like, at the moment the consequence is that she gets up and probably gets to spend time with you.

dd1, age 3, makes herself sick whenever she is given medication she doesn't want.

Does she scream until she is sick or physically put her fingers in her mouth to make herself sick?

she screams and cries till she's sick.

she has also done this when she's upset over something, too.

i don't know what to do abuot it, tbh.

my sister was doing this at 3 as well, until she made the mistake of doing it in front of my paternal grandmother, an iron lady who had 6 kids and didn't take any crap.

my grandmother threw a glass of water in her face.

that seemed to sort her out!

lol, you could give it a go.

I would make her clear up and then say well im not coming in here its yucky now youve done that.
I would definetly stop the sitting with, Super Nanny would have you slowly removing yourself out the room, with fancy night lights and reward of some sort in the morning.
I would give her warning that now shes such a big girl bla bla bla and keep putting her back in bed till she got the idea.
No talking whilst your doing it.
Could take a while and be a night mare but to waltz down the stairs to put the kettle on will be worth the hassle.

I cant remember which and what happened but they did have something like this on HoTT/Supernanny. Not very helpful really..

If I left any of mine alone with sick to clear up at 2.4 I don't think I would have been able to ever go in their rooms again!!

Think it a bit tough expecting a 2.4 yr old clean up sick, but agree with the gradually coming away, no talking etc

DD1 is about 6-9 months delayed globally as far as her development is concerned.

Making her clean it up wouldn't have worked.

She doesn't do it often, but it's a real bas&ard when she has to have medication - had to give her antibiotics in winter and it was pure hell to get them down.

Not alone, but not sitting watching mummy do it, ensuring shes in the room for another 10 mins clearing up.

My dd is very strong willed and can cry herself into an absolute state if she does not get her way. She is now 2.9 but was always like this. Marne, I think you need to consider DD1's age and whether you think she is doing it deliberately to get your attention or whether she can't control herself and is really having a panic attack.

I think at 2.4, it could swing either way, but you know your dd best.

If I felt that dd was really really upset and did not know how to verbalise her distress beyond working herself up to that puking state, then I would just sit with her ie give her what she wants. You can always try again later when she is older.

Since a few months ago, I knew that dd was just pretending to be sick (upset, yes, but having dry coughs) because she saw how being sick could get her dramatic sympathy. In that situation, I would be more hardline - reassure and then gently back away.

2.4 is still very little. I don't think my dd could clear up her sick at that (or even current) age. BTW, I still lie with dd in bed to get her to sleep, but I am a marshmellow.

Yes my 18 month old makes herself sick as soon as I try and leave her room at night. Its so upsetting that I stay with her as she's moved from bedsharing for 6 months to now I sleep in the same room with her, haven't gone to bed and woken up with my husband alone for over a year not good for a relationship.

My DS used to over food he didn't fancy the look of. He had a real thing of not wanting to eat meat. He did it to me three times over dinner in a week, and then again at my in laws. There I lost my temper and picked him up put his pyjamas on and put him to bed at 5.30 explaining that as he kept on being sick he was obviously ill and needed to sleep as that is what sick children do. DH was up in arms saying he would be up at 5 the next morning etc etc, but he had't been dealing and clearing up vomit. I sais I didn't cere and I would get up He slept until 7.00am the next morning and never did it again

Wow, lots of replys,
She cry's until she's sick wich some times only takes seconds of crying, She has done it since she was 8 months old, i clean her up without talking to her and then put her back to bed as soon as i can (after cleaning it up) and i try not to fuss over her.

I really feel for you marne as I said my dd does the same and its so worrying isn't it. I think it might of become a learnt behaviour and it becomes an automatic response.

Best of luck and let us know if you try anything that works.

To someones earlier answer I think it was little angels with a girl who did a similar thing. They told her to clean it up and the girl but silently and without a fuss and then just ignore them. Same again if it happened again. I think it took about a week to start improving.

Don't know if this will help.

Thanks ilove.

Tricky one there then Marne if you are already going with the no fuss/talking. How about a reward in the morning?