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need advice quick

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kjackson2010 · 21/10/2013 22:44

My 7 year old daughter has been acting worryingly. She has been kissing her 9 yr old brother in bed. When asked why they were doing it they said they had seen it on tv at thier dads the conversation led on to how they sleep in the same bed there also despite having seperate beds then i asked if anyone ever touched her private parts she said they pinched her and it felt like an injection and hurt when i asked who she said no one because its wrong and would get in to trouble. Now i am confused and dont kniw what to do please help. She wont say anything else just clams up.

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AndIFeedEmGunpowder · 22/10/2013 08:57

How worrying. I think I would seek social services or my GP's advice on how best to proceed. So sorry OP, you must be really frightened.

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kjackson2010 · 22/10/2013 09:15

Confused probably best describes how i feel. I dont want to make something out of nothing but dont want to take the risk either. Really just needed advice and other mums views on if i should be worried or not. Xx

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ep1977 · 22/10/2013 09:18

I would be worried hun, sorry to upset you. Please seek professional advice as to what to do and how to approach it again with your dc xxx hugs to you pm if you want to chat further x

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kjackson2010 · 22/10/2013 09:19

Thankyou xx

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LittlePink · 22/10/2013 10:13

I wouldn't feel comfortable with her responses to be honest. It sounds as though theres something funny going on at their dads place with watching inappropriate stuff on tv and I don't like the sound of it. Is there a HV you can talk to? Or GP as PP says. I think this needs dealing with. Sorry to alarm you but it doesn't sound at all right.

AndIFeedEmGunpowder · 22/10/2013 10:30

I don't think you are making something out of nothing.

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kjackson2010 · 22/10/2013 12:11

Going to call social services see what they say just wrote down whole conversation doesnt make it any better i am praying its all innocent but for now i think better to be safe than sorry. Thanks for all advice. Really scared now. Xx

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kjackson2010 · 22/10/2013 12:45

Social services said they have logged the call and as daughter not been specific with regards to who where and when not much they can do. Advice was to talk to ex hub and see what he says. Not sure thats good idea as if something were going on he would have chance tocover it up. They are due for access this weekend niw really confused

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AndIFeedEmGunpowder · 22/10/2013 13:33

I hope it's all innocent too. I think you have done the right thing. You could call parentlineplus for advice 0808 800 2222

AndIFeedEmGunpowder · 22/10/2013 13:37

This page is Australian but has some advice too.

SuperDuperTrooper · 22/10/2013 13:40

How worrying. Have you tried talking to her brother about this?

BuzzardBirdBloodBath · 22/10/2013 13:41

I would look at babynamechange 's thread. She is having a dreadful time but there are a lot of really good advice posts on there, really worth a read.

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kjackson2010 · 22/10/2013 18:47

Thanks for all advice have spoken to kids dad and he said he is happy to give up contact with them didnt givedetails about what has been said by little girl just said something had been said at first he kept begging for them to go to his as he was taking them away and there would be people there so the kids would be safe that alone pretty much confurmed he knows sonething then he said he was going to solicitor so i said fine i am more than happy to explain reasons for no contact he quickly changed his mind and said he would rather giveup contact. Does anyone else think his reaction very odd

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AndIFeedEmGunpowder · 22/10/2013 18:53

Yes. I think it's odd too. Glad you don't have to take them this weekend though. Could you call 101 and ask the police their advice? As SuperDuper says have you asked your DS?

theboutiquemummy · 22/10/2013 19:17

I'm sorry you need to follow your instinct call NSPCC they can help and call the police they have specialist officers who can talk to your DD without causing alarm or distress x

Good Luck

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kjackson2010 · 22/10/2013 19:51

Yeah spoke to ds he said hebis always on the wii there so he doesnt spend much time with his sister shebis usually with her dad or older brother. More and more convinced that there is something not right so sticking to my guns and they are not going until i know for sure. He was very abusive to me but never thought he would be to the kids should have known better really shouldnt i

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AndIFeedEmGunpowder · 22/10/2013 21:08

I think that's wise. It's not your fault at all. I hope this gets resolved for you soon and will be thinking of you.

SuperDuperTrooper · 22/10/2013 22:12

I think it very suspicious that their dad gave up contact so easily and without a fight. If he was not in the wrong surely he would be angry and annoyed that you were suggesting he was up to something. I would be very wary of leaving your children with him. I would also try and find a way of speaking to your daughter to see if she will tell you any more about it. You need to get to the bottom of this if you can find a way. Good luck.

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