At what age do I seek help about bed wetting?

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DS1 is still wet every night. He is 6 and a half. 2 younger siblings are both dry (I only mention this so you know it's not me being crap ). He recently asked to try without pyjama pants and we have done 3 nights and soaking bed every night, twice last night. We lift him at 11 ish for a wee and have been doing so for over 3 years, although we did stop for 6 months. Doesn't make any difference. Tried an alarm about 18 months ago. Didn't work, he didn't wake for the beep.
I play it down if he worries about it and keep telling myself it will come but he is now starting to think about sleepovers /beavers camp and I am worried about others being cruel or him realising it's not very common at this age and that worrying or upsetting him.
Any experience? Any advice? GP?
TIA

I don't know the answer but we have the same problem. dd1 has just turned 6 and still regularly wets the bed. We were lifting, but it didn't seem to help, she goes through bouts of being dry then it starts again. I've been using morrisons version of Tena lady this week and she's had a dry pad every night, she much prefers these to pyjama pants and she seems more determined to stay dry.

It is unlikely that anything will be done until the child is 7. Sorry.

Hi our ds was same and grew out of it at 8. Cubs and sleepovers were no biggie akela said to everyone we all wet the bed sometime so don't worry and also you have to bring cuddly toy, it's cub rule. They are an ace bunch of leaders.

What will they do at 7 mrsmouse?
too many we've never had a dry night. Why do you think she prefers the tenas?

The first step is to encourage drinking large amounts during the day, and restricting fluids after dinner, and get the child to have a "try" at urinating twice during the bedtime routine.

Then there are tests to find out whether the bladder is actually capable of holding enough urine to go through the night, followed by either an alarm (pants that detect a tiny amount of urine and then sound to wake up the child) or medication.

(Not a doctor, by the way, just have a lot of experience of this in the family).

We do the 2 tries thing, will try the drinking more during the day. How long before bed should I restrict fluids?

I think the child has to be 7 before a referral will be made. Could you chat to the School Nurse in the meantime? She will have taken over from the HV at 5 years and it would flag up your child if a referral was still needed in the future. A foot in the door if you like...

If you search posts I made some years ago, I wrote all the stuff the Eneurisis clinic did for DS. He had to wait until 7 but I believe they do now see in our area from age 6. Main thing has already been said, drink loads in the day until 4pm, then a drink with tea/dinner then nothing. Also practice holding on in the day so you learn what a full bladder feels like. If they want to go, ask them to wait and it's amazing that they then forget and edit ages. Also, when standing at the loo, count to 10 before going to feel the "urge". When the body gets used to those feelings you are more likely to wake at night.
Black currant juice is off the menu too as makes the problem worse and DS used to drink loads if ut.
They also say NOT to lift at night.
Good luck

We never sought help, DS2 grew out of it. I didn't see it as an issue, knew he would do it when ready.

He got himself out of nappies at about 19 months during the day. Wanted to wear big boys pants like his brother. Absolutely nailed it. But he could not master night time. We used to take him to the toilet before he went to bed and then when went to bed (would do another huge wee), limit what he drank, never ever worked. He would go into such a deep sleep he wouldn't wake up for the toilet during the night.

He last wet the bed at about 9 years old, the times got less and less. He will be 14 next month.

The website Eric is great for info. My ds is 61/2 and having spoke to the school nurse and gp he has just been refered. He is wet every night though, 2/3 times a night and often his nighttime pull up can't hold it. We have also tried all the recommend things, NOT lifting, trying without for 2/3 weeks, stopping black current drinks, 2 tries before bed, no drinks after 5 etc. his cousin was 12 so hope it won't take that long as have similar concerns over sleepovers etc, although on a recent beaver sleep over he handled (hid) it very well.

Thank you all. This has been a big help. Milli I will try those things and school nurse is a great idea I'll get onto that too.