Hi
This is the first time I've ever posted on here. I'm looking for a bit if advice or opinion about a problem I've been having of late with my middle son. Since going back to school after the summer holidays his behaviour has really gone down hill. He's started to swear a lot, mainly the f word and sometimes coupled with b**tch. Initially it was just at school and I only became aware of it when my older son, who's 9 came home to tell me. Initially i thought he was showing off infront if the older kids, as this is the first Year hes been in the main playground. He's swearing a lot at home now too, usually when he is being told off or being told no. I have spoken at length with him and have tried to find out if he has things bothering him, then he becomes upset and says nobody likes him, including me. Of course I reassure him this is not the case. He's always really upset and sorry after he has an angry swearing outburst, but I feel like everyday is becoming a cycle of something upsetting him, him shouting abuse, hitting his brother , flinging things around, me shouting at him to calm down, then the tears come. I've spoken with the school who said they would monitor the situtation, but didn't seem overly concerned. I've tried confiscating toys, behaviour charts, which did work initially, but does always feel like I'm threatening him into good behaviour or he won't get a treat! He got so angry yesterday he slapped my side.
Sorry this has turned out a lot longer than planned. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.